Should i worry that i had a dream of beating up my wife?

Question

We never been combative towards each other. We do argue, but i think most people do. On Friday (13th) i dreamed i beat her down, really bad. I don't know if she died, but i did see blood and bruises. That's all i really remember. I awoke Saturday morning, and told her. She said, she will try and keep away from me. It really has me worried?

Answer 1

All I could tell you is that I've had incredibly disturbing dreams about hurting loved ones, and loved ones hurting me (and never have done this in real life).  So my guess is that if you've had them and I've had them, many others have as well.  In your dreams, your semi-consciousness can play out for you scenarios that are things that you've considered horrible (as the aggressor or victim).  Obviously, there's plenty of news items where this has happened in real life, which is one reason why you might be thinking about it in the first place.  My advice: don't worry about it (as long as it never translates to reality).

Answer 2

it probably means that you are really irratated with her

Answer 3

You should only be concerned if you are truly having conscious thoughts of real hostility or of harming her - that would be very serious but is not implied by what you've shared.

Arguments do happen between most who love each other.  In fact, there can be a worrisome lack of emotional attachment when a relationship runs a long course with no such conflict.  Care means feelings, and feelings mean conflict when sharp differences arise.  Such arguments are not really overtly hostile in a loving relationship, but one of heated emotions drifting into saying things that are a bit too sharp to really stick as meant after the fact.

If it were otherwise - true hostility - then the 'combativeness' you mention would likely creep in and this writing would be very different.

What you experienced was likely an exaggeration of some deeply buried thought or feeling from something you've observed that makes you realize some issue between you that you'd rather not be there.  That does not mean it is a terrible difference, or even something that can or even needs to be 'fixed' - it just is, and it tries now to 'announce' itself.  

It is in fact likley born of your care for her and a realization of her vulnerability, oddly enough.  The mind preys on such things simply when there is a sharp realization down inside your inner mind that 'wishes' some detail were different than it is, or can be.  And it is likely something that really does not get in the middle of your relationship - but if you do pinpoint a particularly bothersome thing you've never brought up, consider it - carefully.  If real conflict hasn't come out of it so far you don't want to provoke that beast now.  But it may help if you really fear this dream - especially if it recurs.  

Most likely it will not recur.  Sometimes the mind vents these things as if 'so there' - and we never really understand why except to suspect some fleeting frustration that flared in a moment of vulnerable sleep.

Of course you will have to consider these observations for yourself in the context you know, but they are suggested by what you've shared.  Perhaps it will help - and again, you should not worry unless you are really holding back some bad feelings that make you feel eruptive.  If that is the case, get some help through counseling on that and don't let any combativeness develop.

All the best to you.

Answer 4

well, it WAS friday the 13th. It was probaly just a bad dream... but if you beleive in your heart that u would never do taht.. then there is nothing to be scared about...

Answer 5

Nothing will happen, I mean i dream of killing LOT'S of people, it may mean I am a sociopath or I have some other personality disorder, but as of yet no people have been killed by me... honest

Answer 6

I had a dream I was being chased around a carnival by evil people , but it never happened.

It does not mean you will actually beat up your wife. It is more a sign of gulty feelings towards her . You have done something you thought hurt her , so you are dreaming you hurt her.

It won't happen, but you two should talk and clear the air.