Should it come from both of us ??

Question

Hi

My partners friend from work (Who I have never met or spoke to) is gettin married tomorow. I asked my partner if he has brought him anythin last night & he said done a collection at wrk & will put some money in his card. I then said have you put my name on card too? he said well I will if you give me some money to put in yes!! Were only going to the night reception but I feel as though it wouldnt really hurt him to put both our names on the card. My Godson was christened earlier this year I brought several presents even though it was at a time when me & my partner had a row I still put the gifts were from the both of us, same as other occasions to. I understand if we have only been together a short while & were nt seriuos in our relationship bt this is the man who is gettin ahouse with me in sep & wants childrem with me in near future.

What do you think?

Answer 1

Because the card was frome veryone at work to add your name would put it a bit out of place.  you cna always get a second card with a small gift from the two fo you.

Answer 2

I think he should be putting both your names on the card even with out you adding money.. you are a couple and since you are both invited to attend it should have your name also..  unless it is only from the people at work as a gift from all of them, if that is the case perhaps yourself and said partner could get a card with something in it from just the 2 of you .

Answer 3

what a selfish so and so..... me and my fella live together and we put each others name on every thing without a second thought regardless of whether we go to party's together or not. You are a couple, there are 2 of you in this relationship not just 1.

If they have had a whip round for him at work why does your partner fell the need to give him another gift any way ? i think giving money once is more than adequate. Why does your partner feel the need for you to pay... to get your name on the card.

Personally i would go and by my own card even if it's just for £1 and see what he say's but that's just me and i hate to lose arguments haha. Good luck with this i think your going to need it xx

Answer 4

well, are you going to the wedding?  if not, then your name should not be on it. like you said, you have never met or spoke to the person getting married, so why should he put your name on the card if the couple doesn't even know you???

Answer 5

When my partner and i were first together we were invited to his mates birthday. I didn't know his mate at all, but my partner had already got a card and the 2 of us signed it. Once we got to the party a big card was going around for everyone to sign, again the 2 of us signed it. It's a matter of being there and making the gesture, not about how well you know the person. The fact is, your partner knows them and they've probably heard about you. They know you're going, so if you don't sign the card they might think you're being a 'snob'. But i dont think you should have to give money.

Answer 6

Yeah your partner should even if you didn't give a penny. I would do the same.

Answer 7

awe you giw ow boy?