Should married couples be entitled to computer privacy?

Question

Why or why not?

Answer 1

My husband and I share a computer. We share the same email in box too. We have separate facebook accounts but we both have access to the others. We could care less about snooping. We trust each other. If I'm planning a suprise I let him know not to open any of my emails because it has something to do with his birthday and he respects that.

There is nothing on the computer that I would not be willing to share. It is called communication and being open.  

Answer 2

Only if you can be trusted. It's not rocket science. Women are exceptionally good at having a radar about their men when something doesn't seem right. We are sensitive to subtle changes and we certainly can tell when you are on the computer way too long, or your overly private, or on late at night, or slamming down screens when we are around. We are also very sensitive to subtle personality traits that occur when a man is getting involved with someone on line. So if you don't give her a reason, then sure have your privacy. It also works the other way...if you are doing nothing wrong and time and time again you find that she is snooping and finding nothing....Then I would warn her and say, its not fair. I'm going to put a password on there if you don't stop, just because I'm tired of you accusing me of cheating.

Answer 3

You can do as you please on many issues but know when you do you are placing a crack or split in your marriage.

Things that cause cracks are:

1. Premarriage contracts

2. Seperate checking and savings accounts

3. Private computers

4. Private assets

Marriage is not always a bowl of cherries. Anytime you set a lack of trust up in your marriage it will grow from a seed to a full size plant.

The best way to go with the very least amount of problems is to do what GOD has commanded. His WORD says when you marry you become ONE. How can ONE hide anything from ONE.

Now you have a choice to abide or not abide, but when you do, you do it without GOD'S BLESSINGS.

Now as to checking and savings. Checking accounts  that are for just everyday expenses should be in a " OR " account to where both you can write a check by yourself. This is only for convienence. But everything else should be in a " AND " account. Banks don't like it but they will do what it is you tell them to.

Now when the clouds come, and they will, you both have to really think if it's worth the cost to continue. Many times one or the other will make a jump or first move that ends up distroying a good marriage. Where if they had time to think they would of stopped it in it's tracks.

Retired Private Investigator that specialized in domestic relations.

( Divorce and Child custody )

Answer 4

Of course they should be allowed computer privacy. My son and his wife live 3,000 miles away. He and I used to communicate through emails until his wife snooped. We had a healthy father/son relationship, but then she read something in our email (unrelated to her) that she did not like. It caused a rift and now my son is no longer allowed to communicate with me. How sad.

Answer 5

Yes, until he gave me a reason not to trust him and then everything became an open book. Trust was something I gave upfront and he abused it.  

Answer 6

If you have nothing to hide, you don't need privacy.  

Answer 7

They should by leaving it open, to each other. I would go with trust every time.

    I'm far from naive but believe in no secrets in relationships, secrets cause suspition.

Answer 8

Marriage means that you have a life-time partnership. You still have your life as you did before your marriage.

If your intent is whole and not for hiding secert information from your wife that would damge the marriage, then my thoughts are you are entitled to your privacy !

Answer 9

if your asking this question in the first place then their is something you want to hide from your partner and or you know its morally wrong to engage in this computer activity. married couples should not keep things, secrets from the other it creates distrust

Answer 10

I don't intentionally look, but we each know each other's email passwords and computer passwords.  It's just helpful when we need to look things up all of a sudden, and one of us it at home to do it for the other.

In a marriage, everything should be and is out in the open.  Computers and virtual information are another part of the puzzle in being OPEN and communicating in a marriage.

It's a source and tool.

Plus, my husband is an IT guy, if he is hiding stuff, he'll know how to do it.  But I don't look anyways, we trust each other that much.  We have no reason to invade each other's virtual accounts, even though we each have the access to do it.

Answer 11

everyone should be entitled to privacy, married or not. i trust my husband, and he trusts me, if i didn't i wouldn't have married him. i don't feel the need to know every little thing he does on the computer, why would i?