Should me and my sister just turn up or write a letter first?

Question

me and my sister want to contact our dad after about 20 years,i have his address but do you think we should turn up or write him a letter first?if wrote a letter any ideas on what to write?

Answer 1

I would write the letter first and give him your address and phone number to contact you. It will be easier to write a letter than to show up and not know what to say.

Answer 2

Just let him know that you would like to get in contact with him, and ask if he would be ok with that. I would send a letter and see if you get a reply first before just showing up.

Answer 3

WRITE A LETTER

THEN CALL HIM

THEN GO, JUST TO BE SAFE

Answer 4

this is too important to just "show up" on someone's doorstep.  Write or call the man and let him know you would like to meet.  If you were in his place, that's what you would prefer.

The letter doesn't have to be long, just say you and sis have found a way to contact him and would like to meet if he is agreeable.  Make sure he has an address or phone where he can get back to you.

At first things might seem awkward after so much time, but there will be lots to talk about if you meet.  One way to begin is to take photos of you and sis taken through the years to share with him.  Good luck