Should men be expected as macho and manly?

Question

I am just curious coz young boys are pressured not to cry or anything

Answer 1

Too an extent I believe yes, like you dont want to hang round a guy who's like crying ALL the time (But its the same with girls really when you think about it!) But yeah i think it is stupid how some of society believes men/boys should never show any real upset emotions because we're all people and we're going to get upset every now and again. Its really the media that has drilled people into thinking this way...

Answer 2

Yes boys are pressured not to cry all the time.

The Cult of Masculinity

Masculinity is the end result of genetics and upbringing, and neither trumps the other in regards to influence. Still, we should not underestimate the importance of the socialization process on males. Decades of research find that masculinity is a social construct that is inculcated upon males from their very birth. In particular, boys learn early on what is expected of them as "men," and research finds that families and society at large introduce several pernicious and oftentraumatic interventions to foster such development.

* First, parents discourage the expression of emotions of vulnerability in male children. Fear and sadness in particular are unacceptable for males. I have witnessed enough parents respond to their crying sons as they pull away from the camp parking lot on the first day of camp by sternly telling them to "stop being a baby."

* Second, males are taught to undervalue emotions indicative of caring and affection; females learn how to express warmth and affection, while males are taught to look upon such displays with disdain. Males do not learn how to connect to other people intimately and are even shunned for such displays; empathy and perspective-taking skills are not taught and are seen as unimportant for young boys.

* Third, there is limited subset of emotions condoned for males, most notably anger, aggression, and instrumentality, defined here as using other people to meet one's own needs. Males who do not learn expertise with these emotions become the recipients of the scorn of other males and, often, society as a whole.

* Finally, and the most traumatic, is the expectation of an early and abrupt separation from a mother. Girls, in contrast, are allowed a much slower separation from their mothers. They can go off to explore the world around them and return to a mother's succor when frightened, unsure, or simply in need of comfort. Boys are expected to rupture this maternal connection and mark themselves off as separate individuals early on in life; those that remain strongly attached to their mothers are pejoratively labeled as "sissies."

The end results of male socialization are distressing. Sadly, when biology is imprinted with societal expectations concerning the one acceptable code of masculinity, we create males with blunted emotional ability, who are incapable of intimacy, disconnected from others, and who live lives of quiet despair."

http://psycport.apa.org/showArticle.cfm?...

Answer 3

nope, cos girls shouldnt be pressured to be girly and feminine if they dont want. Sometimes I have been pressured to be more girly, and I tell ya, it sucks....just let them be who they are...

Answer 4

"young boys are pressured not to cry "??

Your in a very retro family

Answer 5

No. Is not their duty to be manly. Let them choose what they want to be.

Answer 6

Not if they want people to take them seriously when men are the victims of domestic abuse.

Answer 7

It's the classic mistake that men make, women don't what all that macho rubbish. And someone that doesn't show emotion just seems arrogant or brain dead. So no, women want men to be themselves not cocky arrogant idiots.

Answer 8

duno, everyones the same and they will cry someday but yeah i suppose

Answer 9

Its not a big deal to cry or do anything that is not a behavior of a man, cause human have no limitation of doing something unless you are not interested on what you gonna do. Now a days, these things, like being macho, is so demanding or big deal because people separate human kind with each other. Their separation is to strick that some are not compatible with other people.

Not all people have the same interest. As i said, human separate each other as man and woman , but these separation is unfair to some man/woman.

For example, the actors are working so hard to earn money to feed their family. The actor must cry and act like lonely for the benefits of his self and his family. But, does the actor infavor of his job?

Maybe yes, maybe no!

Also, crying is not a scale of being not a men. It is a way of our body to clean our eyes. does a man dont have rights to clean their eyes?

so generally, my answer is, no!

Answer 10

Boys should not be pressured not to cry. Crying is a necessarily part of human emotion regardless of genders. Men should be expected as responsible and mature, not macho and manly!

Answer 11

not if they dont have a father

Answer 12

No, men should not have to be manly and macho, as much as I hate to admit it. I personal think that, as a man, that I should be, especially as the eldest son, and a boyfriend to my wonderful girlfriend. If I was wussy or feminine, I don't think my girlfriend would be attracted to me, because society has kind been shaped around the general idea of men being strong, and tough, and emotionally absent, and women being needy, and over-emotional.

Answer 13

Be yourself anything less would be dishonest with the lady you are with and more important dishonest with yourself society should not determine how you are unless you are a aspiring actor be yourself