Should men be there when their partners give birth?

Question

Should men be there when their partners give birth?

Answer 1

urgh, no thanks. i mean unless she really wanted me to be there... but still... gross.

Answer 2

i was and it was wonderfull. (especially the gas and air)

Answer 3

well they were there at the conception

Answer 4

Of course. Otherwise, who would we yell at? Unless they want to film it, then they can get lost. They should just come and go as we please.

Answer 5

They shouldn't have to DO anything, it's their choice but I think it would be a good idea to.

Answer 6

Yes, who else is going to keep chasing the nurses to give your wife epidural?

Answer 7

It's not a matter of "should."  These decisions are personal and really need not be dictated by someone else's opinion disguised as a "standard" for us all.  Whose business is this other than the parents involved?

Answer 8

I really is up to the couple. My hubby wanted to be there during the birth of both of my children. I didn't want anyone else in the room but him. ( Who wants their family to see everything during labor anyway?)  They can choose not to, but they really do miss out on an important day in their and their child's life.

Answer 9

Absolutely.

Answer 10

absoloutly, its the bringing of BOTH of your child into the world.

Answer 11

I think that's up to the couple concerned.  Some men don't want to be there, and some women don't want their husbands hanging around.  It's something they need to decide between them.

Answer 12

If they want.

Answer 13

Why not?

Answer 14

I was there and involved with all three of my childrens births.

The three most amazing moments of my life bar none.

Men who can't face it shouldn't have children in the first place.  In fact, I'm not sure they're men at all.

Answer 15

If and only if it's late September and the moon is full, both parties agree, and there had not been a birth between the couple for at least two years.

Answer 16

Definitely! Afterall, it's a time when she will be at a high risk, she will be going through pain and very scared of course he should be there.

Answer 17

If she wants him there, then yes I think they should.

Answer 18

I think it would be nice for them to be at the birth but it is up to the couple to decide.

It is really lovely to see the dads to hold the baby shortly after the birth. A bond at an early time.

Men should not be forced to go if they cant stand it.

Friend of mine persuaded her hubby not to attend but he came. What happnened next is that he fainted!

Mother of two

Answer 19

If the mother wants him, the docs say ok and he wishes to be there, absolutely.

Although I do know one poor guy who took his video camera into the birthing centre and became so engrossed in the 'action' the midwife told him either the camera went, or he did!

But most dads who care about the mum and birth seem to enjoy being there, and their spouses feel supported, so why not?

Cheers :-)

Answer 20

I cou'dn't imagine not being their

Answer 21

It depends on The couple. but I believe if he wants to be there then why not. he is the father and he helped make the child so YES. I think it would help with bonding with your child why should the mother be the only one who gets to hold your child first?

I would have Loved to have someone with me as i gave birth to my daughter. i felt so alone, scared and if i only had someone there to share the most joyful event in my life would have been great but I was alone. to watch a New person come into this world and then look in their little face what can be better then that? to have someone share ot with you would be the best.

But if a father wants to be there GO FOR IT. God Bless

Answer 22

no they should be going for a drink to stop them from worrying

Answer 23

Yes, if they want. It's pretty amazing. I did send him out of the room at one point to go get coffee and have a smoke. I was at the intense stage of pushing, and I felt like I was trying to hold myself back while he was in the room (not screaming too much) because I was afraid I was going to upset him. After the doctor came in and said I wasn't progressing and needed a c-section, I called him back in.

Answer 24

Why not?

If a man wnats to be with his woman during childbirth than that is great because the whole process of child birth and labour is shattering and if a woman gets comfort due to her mans presence than great!!!

But this should not be a moral expectation just as it isnt for women in other situations!!!

Answer 25

I am a man and I say yes as long as they re not the kind who faint, it is good for a man to see what a woman goes through while giving birth. Also I feel they bond with the child better by witnessing the experience. Only got to be there with one of mine, the others came unexpectedly while I was working, but it was fantastic.

Answer 26

Depends...if they don't want to they shouldn't

Some people can't stand watching some one loved in pain

I will  be there when my child borns tho.

Answer 27

No, I read in a woman's magazine that it's good for partners to have their own interests outside of the home, this should be one of them.

Answer 28

It's up to the couple.

Answer 29

NO! It would weell put me off god. =D♥

Answer 30

Yes, without a doubt! I was so glad that my partner was with me. He was a really calming influence on me, I was very scared, didn't really have a clue what was going on because I was in so much pain and when things started to go wrong, he held my hand and told me everything was going to be fine. I know now that he didn't have a clue and he was as scared as me, but my brain was in a place of it's own and he reassured me.

If you're worried about what he will think or how he will react, then get him to stand with you and not look. It's a magical experince when you see your baby for the first time, don't let him miss out on that too. Without him, you wouldn't have a baby in the first place.