Should modern man bother to listen to women in relationship, or perfect a method of tuning them out?

Question

I always tell them, later. I’ll be there in a while

Do you actually listen or pretend?

Inspired by - Fox In A Box

Answer 1

see thats the biggest problem with guys, you are never willing to talk and listen. and thats the only thing about guys that really pisses me off. how do you expect the relationship to work if there is no communication. you may as well date a mute woman who can't hear also.

Answer 2

Just keep answering " yeh "

Answer 3

I listen until it begins to become redundant then then the tuning thing comes in handy.

Answer 4

Okay we need to talk; I'll be brief; <this is where I state the problem in three sentences or less>.  Having stated it I wait for your reply; you don't have one. In that case the rule is you must state you don't have a reply; call it basic politeness. Here's the catch; before we have that conversation, the one I just stated, there will be no talking on issues till we are both finished doing what it is they do in bed.

Answer 5

It depends whether the man actually wants to have a relationship, or whether he just wants to have a mommy figure in his life who also puts out.

Answer 6

why dont you carry on not listening, sooner or later she'll look for someone that will actually listen, form a relationship with them and you'll both gradually drift apart, its not fair to let your partner talk and get no genuine feedback when it comes to a relationship that involves making joint decisions. unless shes a selfish argumentative pain in the *** that insists on getting her way, then youd be best to be more conciously attentive.

Answer 7

treat others as you would want them to treat you.

that will work for me.

Answer 8

if women want to be in a relationship based on listening and communication and all that c**p, let them be lesbians.

That's all the rage now anyways.

If they think that communication is king, they can l**k pusssy and chop their hair off.

Answer 9

Listen is a feminine word for agree.

If you do not agree with her, you are not listening.  

Answer 10

The problem with men like you are that you are so muscular that you think this is enough to keep women happy, but you are mistaken.  You should listen to both men and women if you wish to have a proper relationship with them.  Perhaps you are appealing to them now, but eventually even the most attractive man will find that women lose interest in him when he doesn't show sufficient interest.

Answer 11

The trick is to make them think that you ARE listening, and the hard part is not getting caught.

Answer 12

If you want a partner who doesn't talk, smash your piggy bank and go buy a blowup doll.

Answer 13

Mine calls it "the art of selective listening." He says he listens for keywords. I don't listen to him when he tells me all about some dumb sci-fi movie, or his theories on how footballs team could have won, so we're fair.

Answer 14

the question might more rightly be..."CAN men listen to women"?

....or isnt it that women's conversational topics are just way too far over the average guy's head for them to even be able to comprehend let alone think and talk at that level....

hahahha...yep...it would be funny if it wasnt so sad and so true!!!

Answer 15

IF there is no communication, there is no relationship.

Communication is about two people, it changes through time, through circumstances and personal difficulties.

IF someone man or woman, has to pretend to be listening, the relationship is dead, so why bother? Just move on..if possible

Answer 16

If neither man or woman listens to one another, then it's not a real good relationship.  You're best off not being in one in the first place.

Women do know when a man is not listening.  It doesn't resolve anything either.

Answer 17

Maybe in your world this is an issue to contemplate

In my past relationships, I had no problems with the "modern man" regarding mutual communication and interest.

If you don't want companionship, that is your perogative, but I would strongly suggest you to consider the prospect that she is cheating, as this is the classic profile (ignored girlfriend/wife, invalidated, etc.)  

Answer 18

Depends on the subject.

Depends on if for her listening is doing what she wants and agreeing or if listening doesnt always result in that.

The second one dictates the length of the relationship.

Answer 19

My father passed down the "Yes, Dear" phrase to my husband.  My mom and I both understand that our husbands say it when they will do whatever it is that needs to be done, but need no further explanation.  It cuts down on a lot of frustration on both sides.  This phrase must be widely used...they made a TV show out of it.

Answer 20

that is so bad of you, yes you should be listening, and attentive

or you'll feel the back of ma hand. lol

Answer 21

Of course. You should listen to each other if you want the relationship to last. I am really disapointed  in you. are you serious? If you are...then youve really gone down in my estimation. (Sorry!)