Should my boyfriend refuse to get me a drink during a c**p film?

Question

We went to see a film. Before we went in he asked me if I would like anything? I replied just a coke please.

He got himself some sweets. He then proceeded during the film to help himself to my drink too. Towards the end of this dull film I was out of coke (drink)! And still parched.

I asked if he could go get another. He refused.

Was I being unreasonable to ask him to do that?

Bearing in mind he thought it was fine to ask me to shell out for the Taxi to get there.

Answer 1

A gentleman would have jumped at your request.  I would expect no less, especially considering he was the one who drained your drink to begin with!

Answer 2

He was very rude. I do not treat a women that way. He has no manners.

Answer 3

Parched?  Maybe he liked the film.  You were rude to ask him.

Answer 4

it was toward the end of the film, you don't need a drink

if you really wanted a drink you would have gotten it yourself

Answer 5

Not necessarily.

Being toward the end of the film, just wait it out. Perhaps he was finding the film interesting even if you did not.

Bearing in mind you could contribute for the Taxi, could you not have purchased your own replacement -- you obviously weren't involved with the movie -- then provided for his (and your) obvious thirst ?

Surely etiquette is about diplomatically and considerately providing for the comfort of others rather than selfish self-concern?

In this era of purported gender equality, it seems that whilst females receive greater consideration in some societal areas, they still consider this as a right, not a privilege.

Many males readily tire of having to be perpetual providers whilst having little ability to be so and being judged adversely nevertheless.

Answer 6

ok.... this is where women's Lib comes to the fore...

Ok so he drank some of your drink...

BUT you were finding the film dull...

so... would it really have been too much for you to walk out of the boring film and get yourself a drink .. IF HE WAS WATCHING THE FILM ?

forget the taxi ... has little to do with it....

If you two are going to get your knickers in a twist over who goes and gets the coke... maybe it's time to end the relationship!

Answer 7

Even though we have Woman's lib., etc., which I support, it's just common courtesy to get your lady a drink if she asks...or better still, BEFORE she does!

Your date sounds like a total loser. I mean, if it was his mom or Grandma, would he do that? Probably not! Think about it!

Answer 8

Honestly, I think you were rude for asking him to get up during a movie. If I want something, I get it myself. If my boyfriend wants something, he's able to get it himself.. neither of us would dare ask the other to miss part of a movie just because we wanted something to snack on. Ridiculous.

Also, if you were really "parched' I would recommend drinking water, not soda. Soda's not going to help much.

Please keep in mind that it is not your boyfriends job to cater to your every need. You need to take care of yourself.

Answer 9

Sounds like he was interested in the film more so than yourself, and if it indeed was that dull, you could have gone.  It may be that you two were raised differently enough to make your relationship incompatible as your dating expectations are incongruent.  Since you agreed to "shell out" for the taxi in advance, this would not be an issue and you don't care for the relationship as much as you thought you did; look for someone else and he should too.

Answer 10

I think so.  All other issues assied you are the one who wanted it so you should get it. YOu can  ask but don't be mad if he says no.  Most  people  who date or are married share drinks unless they know the person they are with is a  drink hound.  Also if you found it so dull why did you not go he found it intersting