Should my husband and I divorce each other?

Question

Last week, my date and I were at a restaurant and we ran into my husband and his date. All four of us were embarrassed. It turned out both of us did not know we were cheating.

Answer 1

You already know the answer to this question, do you just need other people to confirm it? Why are either of you still married?Neither one of you obviously have any respect for yourselves or each other, you should have BOTH filed for divorce before dating anyone! You first need to sit down and ask yourselves how and why you two let it come to this. It seems a little late to be thinking about staying together, but if you two can get serious and decide to actually put a effort into making the marriage real, then see a marriage counselor(yes they do work!), and start communicating with each other better!

Answer 2

WOW!!! I can't even imagine the two of y'all expressions.That is crazy.So did the two of you talk about this later that evening?I think that the both of you should try to work it out,and make it understandable as to why y'all are stepping out of the marriage.If nothing seems to work, and you are tired of trying to make it work,for so many times,then divorce.

Answer 3

Why is everyone so quick to holler divorce around here...it makes me sick.   You two obviously have issues that need to be worked out.  But if you both are willing to work it out and stop cheating on each other, than do it.

It is always best to try to work things out and avoid divorce at all cost.  Divorce does no one any good, from your own family to society in general.  

Answer 4

you both dsn't know the meaning of trust and love ,i think you both should go on with each other ,you both deserve for each other

plz dont spoil the other future

Answer 5

lmao. yeah divorce sounds like it'll work for you two.

Answer 6

No Stay together and work out an agreement for an open marriage. You date who you want, he dates who he wants. That sounds like what you are doing anyway but this way no one will feel embarrassed next time.

Answer 7

Call a divorce lawyer today !

Answer 8

It is clear that you both do not deserve eachother, so yes, get a divorce, it is also clear that you and your husband are happy with other people, why be miserable, you know what he is doing, and he knows what you are doing, secret is out!!!

Now that the cat is out of the bag, time to get a divorce.

Answer 9

definitely stay married to each other, you are the perfect match!

Answer 10

were the dates married to each other too cause that will be the prefect situation for you guys .

Answer 11

are you and your husband have a kids?

if you don't have a kids than it was okay if you decide to divorce..

well i guess there is no more understanding between you two..

and it better to divorce than keep on cheating each other while both of you two is under responsiblility call husband and wife..

but..

if you have a kids..

better think twice.. think about their future..

think about what their perception on you and your husband..

think about how to safe the relationship..

if there only divorce is the way..

what can i say anymore?

you decide it..

Answer 12

That was a sign which says "you both need to sit down and communicate".. either your ways would lead you both to a more complicated path in marriage or to a more peaceful one with a clearer and better understanding and acceptance of the whole situation.

Answer 13

wow... both of you are cheating... what does that tell you?

I think that if it is possible the two of you need to sit down and talk things over.

Sounds like a real mess to me.  

I think the talk should have happened before the two of you began cheating.  There is obviously something missing for the both of you to seek whatever it is outside of your marriage.

Maybe you can get past this and work it out.  But you two are always going to wonder if the other is cheating again.  The trust is gone...

and that is something that is very difficult to regain.

But definitely talk.

Answer 14

No... try to work around it...if that doesn't work you could always have a 4some or become wife switchers...you seem to like other people very well  

Answer 15

You don`t have much of a relationship anyway, if both are cheating, there is no trust, without trust, there is nothing. You can try and work through it with counsel, but it sounds as though you are both unhappy in your marriage, unless you have an open marriage. Most of these end up in divorce because of an emotional attachment made to the person(s) you are cheating with. Be prepared to become yet another statistic...

Answer 16

Sounds like the perfect relationship - heehee, I say if he wants a divorce, then let him apply for it. (saves you a lot of money in the mean time!) Seems you two also have a silent agreement, hey if both of you are happy, just stick at it!  

Answer 17

lol

Answer 18

1 I think you should have considered that BEFORE cheating.  Obviously you guys have real issues.  I don't believe in cheating.  I feel there is no real good excuse for it.  It's never an accident.  When you get married you make the most important commitment you could ever make to that person.  If things are bad enough you are considering cheating you should seek counseling or get out.  I don't think you should ever open that door until it is done.  If you don't respect your partner at least respect yourself.  As for should you divorce now that the cat is out of the bag?  At least you are both on common ground.  If you can move beyond the cheating, remember what made you fall in love to begin with and communicate then stay together.  If not sounds like your marriage was already over the day you both stepped out.  When you cheat you basically say everything you had together meant nothing anyway.  None of us can give you the real answer you seek.  In the end your going to have to sit down with your husband and talk about it.  

Answer 19

So to say even if you dont devorce u will nwver trust each other try en talk about it ,it might work but trust is dead

Answer 20

ARE U KIDDING ME.... U BOTH ARE CHEATERS AND NOW U WONDER IF U SHOULD GET A DIVORCE... SURE WHY NOT AND BY THE WAY ADD THE PEOPLE U ARE CHEATING ON IN THE REASON FOR THE DIVORCE THE JUDGE WILL GET A KIICK OUT OF IT...

Answer 21

......do you really need an answer? I dont want to be rude, but WOW!! If it was just one of you i might suggest counsling, but you were both cheating and neither cared enouph about the other to even notice?? I think your marriage was over a long time ago. File the papers and move on.