Should my husband and I try to conceive? I know it's our decision but I need another opinion?

Question

My husband and I just got married in July. He is 22 and I am 24. We are both ready and we have stable jobs. We are currently in a one bedroom apartment but will be buying a house next May/June. My mom and dad say we need to wait and his mom and dad want grandchildren. If we start trying now, we should be in our new house which will have three bedrooms but the time the baby is here. HELP? Should we wait until we bought out house to try?

Answer 1

if you aren't able to come to this decision on your own, then you aren't really ready.

when you are ready, you will know that the time is right.

starting to try now, so that in a few months or so you'll get pregnant is a bad idea, because you could get pregnant straight away, and not be ready for it.

you can ask for ppls opinions, etc, but in the end, it should be you and your husband who decide, not trying to make anyone else happy.

remember too that once you have a baby, you might have less income.

Answer 2

i think you guys should get a little more used to being married and have some fun alone before trying to conceive.

Answer 3

I think this is up to you and your husband, not your parents. I know what it's like to want a baby so bad you can't think of anything else. And like you said, it's not like the baby will come right away.  

Answer 4

its totally up to you and if you feel ready. i cant say YES try or NO dont...but i say if you FEEL ready then you are. sometimes it can take years to concieve so if you start now doesnt necessarily mean youll concieve right away

Answer 5

Stop taking precautions, and just see what happens. My husband and I did that, and got pregnant on ym second cycle ~ unfortunately we los tthe baby in february and have been 7 months trying again unsuccessfully. If you are meant to have a child, you will be given one!

All the best ~ and good luck with the house hunting.

Even if you don't have a house by the time the baby comes, the baby can always stay in your room for the first few months, without a problem.

Answer 6

Start trying! You both want children so go for it. It might take you awhile to conceive anyways!! Good luck to you and your husband and congrats on the marriage!! =]  

Answer 7

i would say wait a few months before you start trying because say you get preg right away you'd be moving into your new house in your 9th month (due any day now) or the baby would be a couple weeks old even if you wait like 4 months it would be a lot easier i'm supose to take a preg test tomorrow and if i am preg i got preg in july so the baby would be born in april we're thinkin of buyin a home in Jan/Feb so by the time we close escrow around here it takes 60 days or so we would close in April right around due any day for me and i think it kinda sucks just my opinion im going to be 22 in nov and he's 25 but we got married in Dec 4 years ago. wait a few months or wait until your settled into your new home so you have have a less stressful pregnancy. just my opinion though and good luck in whatever you deside

Answer 8

Listen to your heart...Do not let other people (even family) influence you and your husband's personal decisions.  I know your parent's and his parent's are trying to give you advise, but maybe say Thanks for the advise, but ultimately it is what "we want".   Meaning, you and your husband.  good luck, I know you will find your answer from within..

Answer 9

I would say start trying=) You never know how long it may take! If you are lucky enough to fall pregnant straight away- like next month- you will be due around may/june.. But it often takes a lot longer than 1 cycle! A newborn doesn't need it's own room straight away and being busy towards the end of your pregnancy can be a real blessing! It's a long rd at the end! We moved house when my daughter was 6 weeks old and it was fine! You will just need a bit of extra help from family! It is definately up to you both, so think about each possibility, maybe just dont try not to get pregnant for a while and it might happen just like that! From someone who accidently got pregnant you can plan anything you need to if your pregnant.. 9 months is a long time to adjust and get everything in order. And it is the most precious gift life can bring! Great housewarming present!!! Good luck with your decision!!