Should my twins dres the same?

Question

I have twins girls and they will be starting school next year. They will be in the same class room because it is a small school and they only have 3 teacher and one was full and the othrer i didnt like. They are identical girls. Right now they say they want to, but i dont think they care anyway. One is taller then the other and has a mark on her face, so you can tell her apart. What do you think?

Answer 1

no i think they should dress differently, have their own style.

Answer 2

I'm surprised they allowed you to put both girls in the same class.   Usually they try really hard to split up twins, as it is much better for their social development to gain some independence from each other.

If they are even close to identical, it would be a good idea for you to do something to distinguish them--maybe dress them alike but in different colors, or change the hairstyles or something--color code them where one girl usually wears pink and the other wears lilac or something, even if it's just shoelaces or a hairbow.

Being taller & with a mark on her face won't help the teacher when they are halfway across the playground, and if there is only one in a certain place, how can you compare?  The other kids as well as the teachers will have a hard time figuring it out.

I know it is cute to dress twins alike, but especially if they will be in the same class, I think you will need to try and encourage them to have their own identities.  

Why not allow them to have some input into picking out clothes and dressing themselves?  That way, if they choose to dress alike (or similar) you will know it was really their own choice, but if they start developing their own sense of style, it will help them to gain their own sense of identity and self-esteem.

Answer 3

everyone is unique, so they should be able to express that, let them pick their own clothes so it shows that they are different, even though they look the same. just because one's taller and has a mark, doesnt mean others will notice that they are different.

Answer 4

no. they need separate identities.

my mom used to dress me and my sister alike when we were little. we looked a lot a like, even tho we were two years apart. we hated it.

but if they insist on dressing the same, give them each like different bracelets or something so that the other kids and teachers can tell them apart.

i bet they'd love one of those initial necklaces.

Answer 5

Don't dress them the same, let them have their own personality.

Answer 6

maybe can dress them alike but they could wear ddiffrent colors

Answer 7

Let them be individuals

Answer 8

Just because you notice things like one being slightly taller doesn't mean others will.  I have had identical friends, and it took me a really long time to figure out the small things like that.

My personal opinion is that, while you shouldn't use being able to tell them apart as the reason(people won't be able to tell them apart from day to day even if they wear diferent clothes), you should just let them pick what they want to wear.  Don't force them to match by any means, but don't force them not to.  You will end up with fewer arguments in the end anyways.

Chances are that some days the will end up wanting to match, and some days they won't, so make sure to have a few clothes that are unique as well as the ones that match.  This will also make it seem like you aren't going overboard on trying to have them match to other parents.

Answer 9

I had some friends that did this- it was difficult to tell them apart and took me 3 years.

I suggest buying certain outfits together but also having different. It's a cute thing to do for little girls, but it can make the teacher's life difficult and hard for their classmates to decipher them! It also gets old after a few years, so if they want to stop dressing identically, I would allow them to do so.

Answer 10

I would at least wait awhile so the teacher can get to know them so she can more easily tell them apart. Or maybe you can have them dress alike once a week or something.

Different colors of the same outfit is a good idea, unless they fight over the same color. :)

Answer 11

It is cute when they are babies but they are in school now and need to develop there own sense of self. They need to figure out who they are and their own styles. Plus I am sure that the teacher would appreciate if they dressed different.

Answer 12

I think that in kindergarten it is still fine, even cute. But as they get older they may not like dressing the same because they may want to find independence from one another. As long as they are fine with it though its OK.

Answer 13

They should dress as they want.

Answer 14

nnnnnnnnnnoooooooooooooo dress them different! Starting school they need to have seperate identities to create seperate personalities and make friends. If you dress them the same it will hinder them!!!!  Perhaps even give them little name badges or special badges to help people identify whos who! :)

Answer 15

While they are still young, maybe yes. But like if one is wearing purple have the other one wear pink or something like same clothes just different colors.

I hop I helped

Later

Answer 16

No, I think that if you start raiseing them up as indiviuals,--as seperate human beings from the start--it'll bring out the best in both of them.  My sister is an identical twin,(except for their feet & ears), and Mom used to dress them the same. The teacher and kids still got them confused!!  Please just appreciate that they both have their own talents, their own strenghths----but, they will always be on a conversing Spiritual  Pathway together.

Answer 17

ya ! so cute  .

probably the same clothes, but different colors.

Answer 18

If they want to, get one or two outfits that are the same...But that's it. I wouldn't over-doit with all of the matching outfits, because (and trust me when i say this), they wont want to be matching 4ever

Answer 19

ask them, you don't have to dictate them simple things.teach them how to make decisions.i mean is simple decisions......

Answer 20

You don't have to dress them the same. I mean it's your decision, but if you want them to look kind of the same you can.(-=

Answer 21

I HAVE TWIN GIRLS THEY ARE 7.... SEPERATE CLASSROOMS EVER SINCE PRE SCHOOL... AND I STOPPED DRESSING THEM THE SAME SINCE THEY STARTED SCHOOL.... 1- THEY DID NOT WANT TO DO IT ANYMORE..2- THEY NEED TO START DEVELOPING THEIR OWN PERSONALITY. 3- IS PROBABLY GOING TO BE CONFUSING FOR THE TEACHER..LOL... YOU WILL KNOW.. THEY WILL TELL YOU TAKE THEM SHOPPING..ASK FOR THEIR OPINION..

Answer 22

well, no

Answer 23

yes when they're younger. but not when they're older.

Answer 24

I've raised twins and when they started school, they wanted to be there own person and not associated with that other person that looked like them.  There is a special bond involving twins and they will outgrow wanting to look the same and dress the same as they get older.  If they want to dress alike now while they are still young, it's fine to let them enjoy that special bond they have, but believe me when they start becoming interested in boys, that will all change.  Yeah boys, that's another whole chapter by itself.  My twins will be 30 years old in July.  They also have an older sister and when the twins were born the older sister wanted me to take one back where we purchased them.  I told her I lost my receipt and we had to keep both.  She said with a sigh, OK, if we have to.

It is challenging, but so rewarding. Congratulations.

Answer 25

Everyone is there own person! Dress them diffrently.They each need to form their own personalities

Answer 26

I think it's cute to dress twins alike when they are little but even then I wouldn't do it that often.  They are twins but it doesn't mean they don't have different personalities.  Take them shopping and let them pick their own clothes (with your approval of course).  If they choose the same outfits, then so be it but at least give your children the chance to be unique and different.