Should people mary outside of culture? Does it cause issues? Are arab men just cold hearted? ?

Question

he is arab, i am white. he tells me that i should act more like these other women. he thinks arab, black, latino and asian women are more submissive. the kicker is that i have been letting him get away with abuse for years, how much more "sweet" could I be? I love him so much, but I need to change this c**p.

he thinks i am "white trash", but he runs his mouth so much that i try to ignore him. please help.

Answer 1

He has been carefully raised to think as an Arab..  He calls you white trash before you are married.  It will escalate after marriage.  A woman has no rights in his society.  No property rights.  You will have to be properly escorted everywhere.  Never can you go anywhere by yourself.

He will have the legal right to kill you in the name of his family honor.  If you go with him into Arabian territory you will lose your rights to be represented by your ambassador.  Then he will take on another wife because he can afford it and he has the right to do so.  You will be dropped into some harem and that will be the end of you.  You cannot change him.  He is what he is.  Go home.  He is a danger to you.   Kindest regards, Happy

Answer 2

you need to give him up.. even though his religion does purley allow that.. i trully dont believe a woman should have to put up with that..

just so you know.. arabs are aloud to have other wifes..

i think you need to stop wat he is doing.. you shouldnt have to change for anyone..  

Answer 3

I don't see a problem with people marrying outside their culture, but I am having the same problem as you. My boyfriend is hispanic and he expects me to act differently.  He stays out all night drinking with his friends and expects me not to say anything because...after all, he pays the bills. He should be able to do what he wishes.  He expects me to stay at home all of the time. He tries to controll my wardrobe, friends, job, everything! The sad thing is that I have let him do this for so long that it seems normal to me.  My man also makes comments all of the time about me being a "gringo" and he talks about white women and how they are S****y and do whatever they want.  It's like we are punished for being independent.  Its time we stand up to these men, and start being who we really are! Just because we wont let them belittle us, means we are white trash?? They should love us for who we are, not who they want us to be!

Answer 4

why would u let someone abuse u??? he will NEVER read again NEVER change.

so its up too u if u want to keep putting up with his c**p  

Answer 5

Middle Eastern men have their wives from their own culture and their white women are their piece of cake on the side.

Answer 6

First, if it's physical abuse, leave him because he has no right to put his hands on you.  If it's verbal abuse, its correctable and you should go to counseling.  You can find good people in any culture, and there are many stereotypes about cultures that are not true.  However, there are boundaries that shouldn't be crossed, no matter what culture you're from.  Once you start, there's no going back, it only gets worst.