Should singles be able to adopt children ?

Question

Should singles be able to adopt children ?

Answer 1

I honestly hate this question...as it brings a variety of mixed emotions to me....

I have been a single mother (following divorce) so I do know just how difficult that road is.... and long....  I also know that one of the hardest things following my divorce was being able to balance my time with my kids--and make ends meet...

Prior to our adoption of special needs siblings I would have been 100% supportive of single parent adoptions... and I did feel that many of the waiting children would be better off with even one parent committed to that child....

Five years following placement--I do NOT believe I could have advocated for my daughter's needs without the support of the other parent...  I don't believe I would have been an effective single mother for her...  Mainly, because I honestly have no idea how I ever could have maintained a job and met her needs... That is Frankly the only red-flag I get with the idea of single parent adoptions...

On my own personal--moral view points I believe children do better with the example of two people working together for the best interest of the family.... I believe that a two-parent family teaches valuable lessons we don't specifically identify... Namely Team Work and a demonstration of Attachment....  Children with two parents witness the cycles of one parent having breaks--or being the leader while the other parent is able to take care of their personal needs, job or have a hobbie that doesn't include dragging the kids around... And, even as a single divorced mother--my older children still had the support and care from the other parent, every other weekend visitations and vacations I could not give or take due to being a single mother....so, In a way many divorced parents are still able to maintain the two parent team even if it is also full of all the junk divorced people do when they deal with children....  So on a moral level I would rather see children raised in homes with more then One adult handling the full load....

I would however have wanted to adopt even had I never met a man worth spending more than a few hours with... And even had I not remarried--I planned to foster and adopt because this was the calling of my mother spirit...

My caution would be--be sure to have a solid and educated support system....  But, I would say this to any parent regardless of how they added children to their lives...

So... I do belive singles should be able to adopt children....

Answer 2

yes, but no g**s or lesbians

Answer 3

There is absolutely no reason why they shouldn't.

I wish I had thought of doing so when I was younger.

Answer 4

I think everybody should be able to as long as they are financially and emotionally capable.

Answer 5

Most definately!  Some people choose not to get married or unfortunately never had the opportunity presented to them in a timely manner where conceiving a child would be an option.  As long as this person is financially secure and stable, then why should they not have the ability to adopt?

Answer 6

If someone can provide a safe and loving home for a child then I think anyone should be able to adopt.

Answer 7

If they have studied enough to understand the adoption side, then I dont see why not. Like I have already said, parenting is common sense and comes by itself.

Answer 8

In my opinion, yes.

Answer 9

Yes.

Answer 10

Yes!

Answer 11

Yes.  I'm an adoption social worker (and foster care) and have worked with many wonderful single moms and single dads.

In a perfect world, I'd love all of the kids to have 2 parent wonderful homes, but even with married people divorce happens...and two parents doesn't mean the marriage is good or the home is any more happy than a single home.

So on the basis of marital status alone, yes singles should be considered for adoption.....provided there is no other issue that would have nothing to do with their marital status, I'd approve them.

Here is where it gets tricky....I have an infant (which I SELDOM get) I have a single parent with a lovely home, good solid job, good references no concerns.

I have a married couple with basically the same home study except there are two of them and I'm reasonably sure (people have been known to split after 25 years for completely stupid reasons) their marriage is solid.  Mom plans to stay home and be with the baby full-time, or maybe she doesn't.....but I'm looking at a chance for a child to have a mommy and a daddy........  YES..I'm tempted to look more at the married couple. Doesn't mean I won't consider single mom or dad...but I'm leaning toward the married couple.

BUT...I've had cases where I've had an infant and placed them directly with a single parent because I knew they had the love and support to make a great life for the child....and I've chosen them above some married couples that just didn't fit right for the circumstances.

Answer 12

Well, in the USA no one should be able to tell another person how to live their lives......if single people can give birth and our society can accept that then single people should be able to adopt.

Answer 13

Yes.  why wouldn't they?

Answer 14

IMO, NO!

Answer 15

YES.  

I am single and adopted my son.  He is well loved and very much taken care of.  He is in a better family than my married friend who can't afford to take care of the children her and her husband have.

Do you know the divorce rate among married couples?  What happens prior to a divorce?  (Fighting, arguing, etc.)  No child should have to go through that.  What proof does any couple have that they'll STAY MARRIED?

Married folks (SOME) aren't prepared to handle themselves when they find themselves single all of the sudden.  Whereas, single folks had to work hard to become secure on their own and PROVE it, without depending on anyone in the first place.

Single folks have the same hoops to jump through as married parents regarding the homestudy and adoption processes.  They must be as financially secure as the couple, they must have the same loving and safe home as the married couple...

Answer 16

Absolutely, I think anyone who is willing to take on the responsibility of being a parent should have that right, there are too many children out there being neglected, abused, tortured etc. when ther are so many people that want a child.

There are probably more single family homes anymore now-a-days than dual family homes any way.

Answer 17

as long as they are giving the kid what they need in a good enviroment

Answer 18

yes if they are able to provide for the child, but i think its better if there are two parents, raising a child is far from easy and having a partner can lighten the load.

Answer 19

Yes, there are to many children that need a home.  If a person can raise their own child and be single, why not an adopted child?

Answer 20

Absolutely yes! Singles have Love in their hearts just as much as couples do...

Answer 21

Yes, why wouldn't they?

Answer 22

yes

Answer 23

Single, g*y, whatever.  Doesn't matter.  The people who SHOULD adopt children are those who are informed and caring.  Period.

Answer 24

As long as we're not convincing a single pregnant woman that she should give her baby a "better life" in order for that single person to adopt.  Seems kind of hypocritical, doesn't it?

Answer 25

Yes, If they can prove their stability.

Answer 26

I think that a child should be allowed to be adopted by anyone who can give the child a happy, healthy atmosphere. Let's face it, being married, or a child having both a mom and a dad, doesn't make a childs life good. It is the quality, not the quanitty of adults.

Answer 27

Absolutely, if someone wants to properly take care of a child no matter what their age they should be allowed to adopt. Not being allowed to adopt whether single, g*y, L*****n, or a couple is like not allowing someone to help someone lead a happier life. It's like taking life away from someone else. Being single may prove harder for that person to take care of a child especially a young one, but if they know what they're in for and have the proper mental attitude towards the child it's not a problem. If someone is g*y or L*****n they're just the same as another person. There is no difference and they should be allowed to adopt a child. They're like an infertile woman. They're almost exactly like an infertile woman! So YES, a single, g*y, or L*****n person should be allowed to adopt one or more children.

Answer 28

nope, it's selfish

Answer 29

Yes, you can adopt if you are emotional and financially met the requirement and that basic for Home Study to Approval.

By the way,Criminal record will check by Federal and Home Study agent. If you have DUI you might not qualify to adopt.

Hello Happy Mom.

I can understand your situation.  However, one loving parent still better than two bad parents.  Do not worry about single adoption. Not everyone allow to adopt.  The law make sure adoptive parents have no criminal record,  financially and emotionally secured.  The child must has health insurance as soon as adoption take place, and must have back up someone willing to take the child if the adoptive parent die before the child reach 18 year old. And much more. All requirements must be in black and white before Home Study can approved.

The different about you are being single parent because you were not expect to be raising children alone, but single prospective adoptive parents they knew they are single and ready.

Answer 30

Singles can adopt as long as they meet all the guidelines !