Should the baby have his last name?

Question

me and my boyfriend are having a baby sept 6 ! We have been living together for 3 years and been together for 7 years. He is great and does all the things a husband does.he says he we will get married soon but he has had so much time and he hasnt made any effort like looking at courts or getting a ring. I just want a court wedding nothing fancy. and my parents cannot pay for any kind of wedding.i will feel sad if my baby has a different last name.

Answer 1

Having the same last name as you will make it easier on both of you socially. Everybody who knows a child knows their mother, and everybody who knows a mother knows their child. If you have the same last name it will make it less obvious that you are not married to the father which will stop people from making snap judgments about you (for example, some schools and daycare centers can get snooty about this kind of thing, as can other parents).

Answer 2

I gave my children their daddy's last name, even tho we are not married!!! We have been together for 8 years, so I didn't see it as a problem ... and it made him feel very special :-)

Answer 3

It is completely up to you. You could always change your babys' last name if LO has yours. Or you could give you LO his last name. It is up to you, there is not law saying what last name the child should have.  

Answer 4

I dont mean to be rude, but why would you have a baby with someone without marrying them first? couples are more likely not to get married if they have children first, b/c the man gets so comfortable as if hes already married. Marriage is just a piece of paper....some people say...I dont think that I think marriage is about celebrating your life together. why would he want to buy the cow when hes getting the milk for free. You have given him everything without being married so he doesnt see the point in getting married

Answer 5

My kids have my soon to be hubby last name, and it doesn't make me sad or anything.  If you're going to be married, (which I'm sure will happen, men just aren't good at planning or doing things unless you take them by the hand) then it shouldn't make any difference.  You won't feel or think anything different.Congrats on the baby!!!

Answer 6

The baby will have whatever last name you put on the birth certificate.

Answer 7

How about your last name-his last name.... that way he has both of your last names, my daughter has my last name...... but thats because me and her father are not together, but if we were and we were not married...... i would of did my last name hyphon his....

Answer 8

I would say give it the daddys name. you may get married, you may not. but that is his baby too and thats jsut what should be done.

Answer 9

It's totally up to you!  My lady and I aren't married legally, and we have 2 kids who have my last name.

Answer 10

Hello.When th baby is born,especially if he is there,he may be moved to get planning a wedding.Talk to him about your baby's last name.You have the choice of yours,his or both together.

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