Should the husband attend the birth? I have heard that after seeing the suffering?

Question

some men become unable to have s*x with their wifes for several months (too stressful). They perceive her somewhat differently.

Answer 1

I think if the gentleman in question is hesitant to be there do not force him!!  If he does want to be there then let him!!  I could not have done it without my husband!!  He was my rock and he was amazed when his son was born!!  Our s*x life went right back to the way it was before the baby was born (but very gently because I tore in three places!!)  Another reason I am glad he saw this is that he understood he needed to be gentle for a few weeks until I healed a little!!

Answer 2

My husband was present at both births - doesn't that answer your question?  My second pregnancy was not an immaculate conception.  He wouldn't have missed the births for the world.  Anyway, in the months immediately after birth you will be trying to catch up on sleep whenever you can.

Answer 3

Well depends on the guy. My husband seems to love me even more with all my imperfections, including new physical ones....I don't get it...but I'm grateful for it. Some men really are that shallow and if yours is like that then maybe you will have to shield him, but that's kind of pathetic. I think men like that need to grow the h**l up, especially when they helped to make the child and have a mother who went through it for them as well. I laugh when I see guys get all tingly over watching spartans on TV, like they all think that's what they descended from but they can't even handle watching the birth of their child and the strength the mother requires mentally and physically.

Answer 4

He was there at the beginning of the process. In my opinion it's only polite to be there to welcome his child into the world! If a guy is so scared of getting turned off his wife that he daren't be there to support her through the birth of their child then he's a selfish little boy who needs to grow up. There are more important things than that. I admit it's important, but the birth of your child is much, much more important.

My hubby says that any guy with that attitude is still a little boy and he ought to be there because the birth of your child is a strong link between him and the world, and is therefore one of the most important rituals of manhood that you can experience. He thinks any guy with this sort of attitude (too stressed to be there) is afraid of his own manhood and ought to be there to face it and accept that part of himself.

How's that?

The only reason most guys are afraid to have s*x with their wives after childbirth is they are afraid of hurting a rather tender and recently abused area. As soon as their Mrs is in the mood, the guys are happy to partake!

Answer 5

Most men anymore can handle it and if they can't they can opt out of being in there.  Some men faint with the sight and others may take awhile to want to have s*x again but they all eventually get over it.  It didn't bug my exhusband at all or my boyfriend.

Answer 6

My husband was at the birth of both our children and he said it was the most amazing experience seeing a life he helped created being brought into the world. he doesn't see me any differently and he has no problem wanting to have s*x me. in fact sharing an experience like giving birth brings you closer together.

Answer 7

it's a very special moment that you two will have, not to mention he should be there to support you.  

i don't think he will look at you too differently

Answer 8

Poor hubby....too shocked to have s*x with his wife?

How do you think the woman feels?  Remember, she's the one going through labor.  The husband just stands there. (or sits).

Answer 9

well, seeing as you can't have s*x for a few weeks anywyas, whats the big deal?

I think your husband should be there with you. Its his child too. And you two should be in it together.

Answer 10

Are you concerned that your man is that shallow? Have faith that you have chosen the right man, not a boy to father your child. Yes, he should be there.

Answer 11

Only if he wants to. Just because it's becoming more acceptable to have husbands present during the birth doesn't mean they just HAVE TO and if they don't want to people think they must be some kind of louse. Not so, they're just weak. So don't try to guilt them into going if they don't want; you just might end up with your husband passed out on the floor and in the way during the most critical moments! Sure, it's funny, but not if he passes out on your IV and rips it out  or something similarly destructive.

I don't know about the unable to have s*x with the wifey thing though. The men are too stressed to have s*x? Sheesh, if the man is stressed how do you think the woman feels, especially after passing that watermelon out of her crotch? I don't think it'll be an issue; by the time she's ready (and it will be her call, her body needs time to heal) the husband will be more than willing after the drought.

So I wouldn't worry. I think it's great to have the husband there for the birth, but it's up to him.