Should the man or the woman pick the out the engagement ring?

Question

Recently, we went shopping for engagement rings. However, I want the proposal to be a complete surprise. I wanted to try a few on to see what I like. But I want him to pick out the final ring- even if I had a bit of a "say" in my style.

Answer 1

I just think it's really special if the man chooses the ring. There's nothing wrong with showing styles you might prefer, but leave it to him to choose something similar in his price range. There's something wonderful about the surprise factor!

Answer 2

Being a traditionalist myself, I think the man should pick out the ring and the proposal should remain a surprise. I just don't think I would appreciate something I'd picked out myself as much as if he'd picked it out for me. The way I look at it, he's choosing something that he thinks would look beautiful on me and that I'd be proud to wear for the rest of my life. Why should I come in between that decision? That having been said, I see nothing wrong with *hints* as to what a woman would like (i.e., color, style, shape, etc.), but I don't think a woman should tell a man *exactly* what she wants. Throwing a few hints and letting him go from there is fine.

Answer 3

Every couple is different, but my fiance' and I took the tradition route.

We wanted my ring to come from him, and I could be more thrilled. He unknowingly chose the very ring I wanted, a reflection of just how well he knows me =]

In my opinion, we don't go with people to pick out our gifts, so I don't see why women should pick out their engagement rings.

My fiance' and I are custom designing our wedding bands, so in that we both are deciding.

Answer 4

Since the man is the one paying for it and it's a gift from the heart he should be the one to pick it out.  My husband picked out mine by himself with no help from anyone but he did get his friends opinions on it before he gave it to me and they all assured him he picked the right one and that I would love it.  They were all right.

Answer 5

The woman.  The man doesn't really care and he wont have to listen to the woman ***** about the ring he should have picked.  The man could really care less.

Answer 6

I let my wife pick it, she is the one who has to wear it.

Answer 7

depends who proposed.

Answer 8

In my opinion, the man should. I kind of like the old fashion idea of it. I don't see anything wrong with showing him what you like though.

Answer 9

the man picks it out, however in many cases the women can help the man pick it out.....i.e she'll select a couple that she likes and then he'll make the final pick or she could simply pick it out if its okay with him not having to surprise her.....

Answer 10

He picked mine out alone.

Answer 11

Depends on the couple. I know people who have nothing against picking out what they're going to receive as a gift. I, on the other hand, believe that whoever is giving the gift should choose it. It used to be considered proper to have a gift reflect the taste of the giver rather than the recipient.  

Answer 12

Depends whos paying for it and what you can afford!!! :) it isnt the size of the diamond its the size of the heart  

Answer 13

We had gone shopping together so I can give him ideas on what I wanted. I told him that I did not want a diamond as my main stone. He picked a white gold ring with a blue stone and two hearts on the sides. He surprised me. He picked me up from my last class (I was 31 at the time and went back to college) and told me we were going out for a drive. I kept asking where are we going and he would give me answers such as that's for me to know and you to find out or beats me. He had taken me to Shoshone Falls (where Evil Knievel made his jump) and got down on one knee.  

Answer 14

In the end, I think it's going to be a joint decision.  By the time you get engaged, marriage, the future, and likes and dislikes should have been discussed.  I would assume that the jewelry would be a part of that.

I had mentioned to my husband more than a few times what kind of ring I liked.  He was so proud to pick it out "all by himself."  Sure, he knew I wanted a solitaire diamond, round cut, silver/silver toned setting.  But HE picked it out on his own and surprised me with it.  I give him the credit...

Answer 15

That is a matter of preference.

Every couple does it different.

My fiance picked out my ring on his own. I was so proud of him lol.