Should the parent of a high school senior complain to the VB coach about her actions?

Question

My daughter is a senior and her volleyball coach has made a statement that what happens with the volleyball team STAYS only with the volleyball team. In this particular case, one of the girls broke a school rule, but because it was a big game that week, the rule was overlooked and the girl played. The girl's parents were NOT notified about the broken rule (which was a major school rule, the punishment was suspension) and my daughter told us about it. When coach found out our daughter told us, MY daughter was punished for a team infraction. Would YOU confront the coach or NOT?

Answer 1

Absolutely.   A coach has to uphold the school rules since he/she is employed by the school.  It is not setting a good example of citizenship.  A coach should be a role model and not trying to cover things up.  I would definately contact the coach as well as the school.  I can't believe that a human being would be so insincere and cruel.

When I confront the coach, I would at least give myself a few days to calm down.  That's me personally.  I get really worked up quickly to certain situations so I know that I need to work it through and then confront the situation.

Answer 2

Yes - I would confront the coach and if the coach didn't respond, I'd go to the principal.  Document everything both parties say.  There are certain things that can stay within the team and others that need to be reported.  If one of the girls committed a crime, would the coach report that?  Not to mention that the coach violated UIL rules, which is taken very seriously.

Answer 3

I wouldn't because your daughter is  a senior, and she needs the coach's support to get into a good college on a volleyball scholarship! Just go along with this and stay on the coach's good side! The worst thing you can do for your daugher right now is mess up school and sports, so she can't get into a god college!

Answer 4

Absolutely I would! And I'd make it clear that if my daughter suffered any backlash, I'd be taking the matter to the Principal and the Superintendent. That coach is waaaaaay out of line.

Answer 5

I almost think that you should go to the activities director or a higher authority because your daughter did what was right and told you. The coach was wrong about breaking rules, even if it is a big game, it still is ONLY a game.

Your daughter was unjustly punished. The coach has no moral.

BUT.

Ask your daughter what she would like you to do about it, and reach an agreement.

Answer 6

yes i would your daughter was being honest by telling you, and if no joy there go higher up