Should this adopted girl be allowed to visit her family?

Question

There is this family who I met and now know.They have a teenage daughter who they see once in a while,however she was put up for adoption after their second child who is severly mentally disabled and has been that way since birth,and needs round clock care.There is a year difference between the firstborn daughter and the second born son,so they gave her up around a year old or so.They went on and had 2 more kids after that.So they have four children but the girl does not live with them,just visits once and a while.

The family is very cute and always seems happy,and in the brief amount of time I spent with the girl,she was very nice and very sweet as well.

However,she went to the same school as her biological siblings and her adoptive parents are some what of good friends with her real parents,but her biological father wants her to live with her biological family,would he be allowed to take her back?

Answer 1

I read your other question, too.  I'm a little confused--the birth parents placed her for adoption because of the amount of care the disabled sibling required, but then had two more children that they kept?  That sounds fishy to me.  I'm not sure it's relevant to your question, but it sounds like there would almost have to be something else to the story.  

In any case, as long as it was a legal adoption (in which the biological parents signed away their parental rights), the birth parents cannot change their mind.  (Birth parents have a limited amount of time to change their minds--30 days in most states.  That period is long gone.)  Adoption is permanent, and the birth parents have no right to take the child back.  

If they sent her to live with the other family but did NOT do a formal adoption, terminating their parental rights, then they can (probably) take her back.  The other parents, the ones she is living with, could try to sue for custody--whether or not they'd succeed depends on a variety of factors, including the biological parents' fitness to parent and the girl's preferences.  

Certainly, in either case, the people involved could come up with any private arrangement they all agree to.  Even if there was a formal legal adoption, the adoptive family could agree to let the girl live with the biological parents if that is what they and the daughter want--but the adoptive parents would have the right to end that arrangement any time they wanted.

Answer 2

I think it depends on what the daughter want, they gave her up when she was small now they want her back, i know if it were me that would hurt inside.

If the adoptive family agrees then i think they can, but mostly it depends on the daughter.

Answer 3

NO! And what the **** are they thinking of trying to?  You place a child for adoption, they're not your child anymore!  l would go so far as to say they don't have four kids they have three.  She will never be their child again, they had thier chance now they need to get out of her parents faces and leave them to raise THEIR child.  God, some people need a reality check.

Answer 4

I'm sorry but I doubt that that would happen. Possibly under rare circumstances, like if the adoptive family agreed to sign over parental rights to the biological parents. If I was the adoptive family, I wouldn't do it. But I'm not so I can't speak for them.

(edit) Should she be allowed to visit? Absolutely. She apparently knows the situation and has some type of an open adoption. I wouldn't take that from her now. From how I'm looking at the situation, I would leave it just how it is. Let her visit her biological family as often as she wants to but let her stay with her adoptive family. It sounds like quite a complicated arrangement and I'm sure there's more to it. The bio father should first contact a lawyer if he's really considering trying to get her back. Like someone else said, what's best for the daughter in question should be everyone's first priority.

Answer 5

I don't think you can do that...that I know of anyway...

Answer 6

That depends on where you live, what court orders are in effect( such as child support), the girls wishes will be taken into account so no one on here can answer your question. He could consult with a lawyer who should be able to assess his chances- then he would need a lawyer anyway.

Everyone in this illustration sounds a lot like another family in a question on here. You all need to consider what is best for the child not all these adults in her life.