Should we get married before he goes to the navy?

Question

We have been together for a year now and we have been engaged since Feb. He is leaving for boot camp soon and we had our wedding date planned for June 21,2009. Alot of people have been telling us we should get married before he goes and we are trying to decide what we should do. If we got married it would be a small justice of the peace wedding and then have the big ceremony for friends in family in march..I need help!

Answer 1

If you want government benefits, for free, marry him. You'll get no benefits from the government on his behalf if you two are not hitched. If having benefits in a hurry is important to you, do it. If you think that you two can hang while he's away for a long time, marry him.

Answer 2

Life as a military wife is very difficult.  Just prepare yourself for the challenges you will face. Keep the lines of communication open. The benefits and his pay will be better if you are married though.

Answer 3

It should be a matter of whether you are already ready to get married. Of course, I see you are engaged and plan on getting married. But it shouldn´t be some wild decision now that your partner is leaving for boot camp.

If it´s important to the two of you to have this wedding before he leaves, do so. He does come back anyway! If anyone had doubt that one of you might cheat during that time, being married will not be the ultimate factor of preventing.

Get married, if it´s important to do so now. If it gets all your plans into a chaotic situation or if you want it to be a big ceremony to start with, then wait. You´ll love each other still as much and it´s something to look forward to even more for when he returns.

Answer 4

There are certain advantages of getting married before he is assigned, but not necessarily before boot camp.  They include health insurance for you!  I think it really depends on how stable your relationship is.  Do you still hang on him like he's accessorized or do you two have a more mature relationship?  Many young marriages in the military don't make it because the gal has this romantic dream of what marriage is while the guy matures very fast and changes while in the military.  Consider all these things.

Answer 5

Dont feel rushed by people make this youlls choice this is a long term commitment so if u think you all are ready then do so if not then dont rush it and ruin your chances of having a happy marriage

Answer 6

That is totally up to you! Do not let anyone make up your mind for you guys! It's a big commitment and if you have any doubts, then don't do it.