Should we get married on my birthday?

Question

My fiance just asked me if i wanted to get married (civil ceremony) on my b-day which is in September. Our church ceremony and reception is until next year November 7, 2009. Is that just too far apart? At first I told him no, but then I said yes, because, well it is romantic. I dont know though, i kinda want to but i'm not all that sure.. What do you think?

Answer 1

it's really your choice. I would say, if you guys are the type to wait to have s*x until you are married then get married soon and avoid the temptation.

it is a romantic thought to have a private ceremony like that....it's really your call. congrats!

Answer 2

no weddings and birthdays should be kept seprate.

Answer 3

no...not saying that you will but it sho aint like the old days. what if you guys get divorced? then every year youll remember your anniversary and maybe get depressed, until you find someone new

Answer 4

Not if you don't want two different presents!  Your new hubby will probably buy you one thing and say:  HERE, HAPPY BIRTHDAY, HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!  :-(

Answer 5

I'm not understanding the two wedding thing.  You're thinking about getting married in September 08, and in November 09 (when you will have been married for over a year), you're going to pretend to get married again?  I don't get it.

Celebrate your birthday this year.  Get married next year.  Then there is nothing weird, and no confusion.

Answer 6

That's something only you can decide. I have known several couples who got married on one or the other of their birthdays and they obviously thought it was a good date otherwise they would have chosen another. Some people like the idea of having them on the same date while others don't. You have to decide what works for you and don't pay attention to what anyone else thinks.

Answer 7

Sure, if you want to be married, go for it.

Answer 8

Well, I suppose the upside is you each only have to remember one date...for him, your anniversary IS your birthday, and that's all he needs to remember. For you, all you need to remember is his birthday; again, because your anniversary IS your birthday, and there's no way you're going to forget your own birthday.

Answer 9

I would say no because those are two very special occasions..why would you want to combine them?...then again...he would never forget your b day or anniversary

Answer 10

I personally think that weddings and birthdays should be separate celebrations. Besides, one gift is hard enough to find, let alone one good enough for both occasions, or two.

Answer 11

my friend got married on her birthday and now she is going through problems in her marriage. ( I am not saying this will happen to you, but just something to think about)

I think its a bad idea to get married on a birthday.

It's not about presents, I just think they should be totally different days.

Answer 12

No.  I would want keep the two separate.  Plus, if you get married now your actual wedding/reception next November won't seem special at all.  Just hold out.  

Answer 13

I wouldn’t honestly because what if you get married now then when you guy’s are having your real wedding he does not want to get married… what if he said na! y get married again and spend more money we are already married!