Should we give a wedding gift?

Question

Here's a little back info.....My husband works in an office and the office manager's daughter is getting married. He is not friendly with the office manager, and only just met the daughter (who has been working in the office for the past 6-8 weeks). We already declined attending the wedding, should we still buy a gift?

Oh, and btw, the office manager also invited us to her other daugher's graduation party (we did not attend and did not give a gift....we never met the daughter). and we just attended the office manager's son's engagement party. We bought him a gift and went b/c my husband has been workinig with him for over 2 years.

It just seems to us that the office manager is looking for gifts for her kids. all 3 parties were within an 8 week span of time. and i don't know if this matters or not, but the office manager is the boss's sister. Thanks to everyone for your input.

Answer 1

Maybe she's proud of her children and wants to share with her employees.  Maybe she's using her management position to get gifts for them - who knows?

If you're not going and you don't know her I don't see any obligation to send a gift.  

Answer 2

No,but a card might be nice but if you do attend any of those then you should probably give them a gift. But just because your invited it doesn't mean you have to get them a gift

Answer 3

If you don't know the daughter very well, and aren't going to the wedding, I see no reason to give a gift. Gifts should never be mandatory anyway, and just because you get an invitation, doesn't mean you need to give a gift.

The manager may not be just making a grab for gifts, by the way. Some people just like to invite everyone they know to everything, and have really big celebrations.

Answer 4

no, you do not have to give a gift. a wedding invite is not an automatic obligation to give a gift. If you attended the wedding it would be different. A card might be more appropriate

Answer 5

I'd suggest sending them a card at least.  You can include a gift card if you feel like it but I think a card is fine, given the relationship... or lack of relationship

Answer 6

No you are not obligated to send a gift.  Instead why not send a nice card wishing them well... no gift!

Answer 7

Dont feel obligated.... just send a nice card. Your dont even know the other 2 kids. Dont feel bad....

    

Answer 8

smart girl, not getting all caught up in that!  at the most a card in the mail will do

Answer 9

I'd still send a card with a token gift, no more than 25 bucks or so, you don't even know the girl!  With all these wedding/engagement invitations I would brace myself for a whole lot of baby shower invitations very soon.

Answer 10

Send a card to the new bride and groom and include a small amount of money (i.e. check).    It seems tacky to me that the office manager is inviting everybody and anybody to her families' events, but some people are just like that.

It's typical that if a wedding invitation is sent and a person is unable to attend that they at least send a card.  

Answer 11

I would just send a card and wish them good luck.