Should we go to the wedding if we are invited?

Question

My husband and I had a set of two good friends. When I meet the guy he was single and he was my husbands best friend for over 9years. When he started dating this one girl, who we sort of didnt approve of too much we all stopped talking. After two years and lots of myspace drama...We have all started talking again. I still do not trust her completely, however I do it for my husband. He was friends with both of them. They will be getting married soon. We do not know if we will be invited, because the groom to be's sister doesnt like us no more. We use to talk to her, then all of a sudden she stopped talking to us too. Recently we were lied to a few times about their plans and bridal showers, because her bridesmade (the guys sister) doesnt want us present there. If we are invited, should we go or should we just keep our distance....

Answer 1

No if you guys are invited it won't be genuine just "it's the right thing to do" sort of c**p a wedding is a joyous occasion for the couple and their guests if you truly aren't going to be comfortable there (and it sounds like you won't be) don't go

Answer 2

if you are friends you go!

Answer 3

I would go if it is local or in the general region, but if you are having to make a long distance trip - I would probably send apologies.

While you have had ups and downs with this couple it would be best to try and show as much support to them as you can

Answer 4

It sounds like to much melodrama to me..... send them a nice gift with a card... wish them well...and let them contact you when they return from their honeymoon........if they don't your out a few bucks but you did not get caught up in the games people play........

Answer 5

I agree with the other responses, that if the Wedding is local then you should go. Not for the Bride or the sister but to support the Groom who has been your friend (off & on) for 9 years. However, if the tensions are high between you and several members of the Wedding Party then you can decline going to the Reception. Make sure that the Bride & Groom see you at the Wedding though. Good luck!

Answer 6

If it is local, go to the wedding.  You don't need to attend the reception where you will have to actually associate with those that aren't speaking.

If it is out -of-town, send a gift and your regrets.