Should we have a baby?

Question

My husband and I have been married for over 5 years and we are stable and happy. The issue is he is in the navy and is about to be back on Sea duty for 5 years. He could be gone for 9 months at a time and could possibly miss the birth all together. We don't really want to wait 5 years, but we don't want him to miss everything and I don't want to be a single parent. What do you think?

MIlitary people who have been through this especially

Answer 1

You have a husband you are not a single parent. You knew the nature of your husbands job when you married. What's really important is the effect the separation will have on the child. If you have the support of family and friends, and are financially capable then I think you should go for it. The baby will help keep your family ties strong in the absence of the physical. I was Navy also (Operation Specialist), tell your husband Thank You for keeping us safe, and "GO NAVY"!!

Answer 2

i joined the army when my son was 10 months old.  it was the hardest thing i could possibly have ever done.  you should be more concerned with how much daddy your new child would be missing out on.  while it is important for you to have your supporting husband by your side when your are delivering, the baby ultimately wont have any recollection of that.  if he is gone for nine months at a time for the next five years, your baby wont know him.  not to mention the hardship of being a single mom.  i was a single dad in the army and had to get out because of it.  i would reconsider having children until you can both be there to raise him/her

Answer 3

My husband and I have been married almost 6 years. He is in the Navy and we are on our 3rd child right now. I think it's a personal choice if you don't want to wait then do it. If you don't want the possibility of having to be alone and parent alone for periods of time then don't do it. That is our reality honey. There are no real guarantees in our lives, you know that. When we decided to have our first son my husband was supposed to be there the whole time then with an 18 hour notice 3 months into the pregnancy he got deployed. He missed the whole pregnancy pretty much but fortunately made it home just 2 weeks before the birth. I can't tell you what to do and no one else can. It's up to you and your husband. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Answer 4

You should have a baby. If he does end up having to miss it you two should get laptops with a web cam so when he has time while he is over seas you can have a live chat with him. He wil be able to see the baby and watch him/her grow until he comes home. You two might feel sad at first but as soon as he comes home yall can be a happy family and everything wil be fine.