Should we have a wedding at 18?

Question

i know i'm a little young, i'm only 17, but my boyfriend asked me to marry him the other day and i said yes. we have started planning our wedding and have decided to just have a justice of the peace ceremony with just our parents there and have a big reception type thing later. neither of us have told our parents yet but we want it christmas eve of next year. it'll be right after i turn 18 and he will already be almost 19. do you think it's a good idea to be married so young? should we have a big wedding?

Answer 1

I only have one question for you - Are the two of you currently living together? You should wait until you both can support yourselves without your parents help. Marriage is for adults.. and you both need to prove to yourselves and each other that you are adult enough to take on the large commitment of marriage. You should be able to (comfortably) pay your bills. Also, you should have both sides parental support! And I know I wouldn't want my daughter to marry that young.

Someone said it best: "If your meant to be together, you will be.. married or not." It's easier to wait, than to get a divorce.

Answer 2

Not a good idea.  You'll be divorced by 21.  If you are stupid enough to get married that young, do not have a big wedding.  Why are the two of you in such a rush?  If you really love each other and are meant to be together, you'll still be together after college.  Wait until you are at least 22 to get married.

Answer 3

i do think you are to young to get marry...

if you feel you love him a lot...well stay in a relationship with him..but dont get marry yet...wait a little more....

stay as a bf-gf ....a little bit more

Answer 4

i would stay engaged a bit longer. i dont think its too young but thats not  avery long time to be engaged.

Answer 5

You are too young. You should get married around 25-28.

Answer 6

You should wait until you can afford to live without mommy and daddy and already be living with him. I am 23, and it won't be until I'm 24 that I'm getting married. I have also been living with my boyfriend, for almost two years. It is a very big struggle with just the two of us and we are adults with considered well paying jobs. I can't even afford another car I so desperately need. Try living with each other for at least a year before getting married. That way, you will know if you can afford it, but can also live with him.

Answer 7

First of all, I think you need to ask yourself *why* you want to get married. A minister once spoke at my high school about all the pre-marriage counseling he'd done in the past. He said that if the answer is, "Because we're in love," then the couple isn't ready. He said that the "correct" answer is that they are both where they want to be in their life as far as education and career are concerned, and they're ready to start building a life together as husband and wife. If you want to go to college and start a career, then I strongly suggest waiting until then to start planning a wedding. Besides, if he's really the one for you then you'll only ever have one wedding, and you'll want to do it right. Make it as fabulous as you can afford! And I bet if you wait a few years you'll have tons more money to make it the wedding of your dreams.

Answer 8

If you're really meant to be, you'll be together, married or not.  Wait until you're 21.  Believe me on this one.  I was engaged at 18 and NOT getting married was the best thing I could have done.

Wait until you are living on your own.  You'll learn a lot about yourselves, each of you.  There's no need to rush.  And I highly doubt your parents would be thrilled to have their daughter get married right after turning 18.   The big wedding doesn't matter, but family support does.  You don't even want to know what it's like to be estranged from your family.

Answer 9

Every girl wants a big wedding. To wear the white dress and to walk down the isle. To be honest, and I have been with my boyfriend since I was your age... it is responsible to wait. Things might change, you never know. And i know couples that were going to get married, went to college and everything was changed. I know my parents would never allow it, and your's might be the same. I would wait it out. There is nothing that is going to change if you do wait. It is being responsible... is this what you want to teach your children?

Answer 10

no, dont do it. i think its a very bad idea to be married at a young age.  if you guys really want to get married, a few years shouldnt make a difference, youre just starting your life as an adult.  a lot of things change on the way you see things now and how you will see things in a few years.  if you guys are really going to plan a wedding now though, the one thing you should do is try living together before you get married.  living with someone is completely different from just dating them.  you notice a lot of things youve never noticed before and they could bother you or convince you youve made the right choice.  try waiting a few years please

Answer 11

IF U GUYS CAN AFFORD TO LIVE TOGETHER IN APARTMENT OR HOUSE THEN YES!  

Answer 12

I know some people that have been married since they were 16 and are still together years later and some that got married in their 30's and are divorced.

Nobody can say what you should or shouldn't do, I suppose the best thing is to talk it over with both sets of parents.

If you love each other then it will work, but the only thing in marrying this young is that you may find you have not lived enough.

I wish you luck in whatever you do.