Should we have kids?

Question

im 22 and my husband is 24 and he has been talkind latly about having kids he wants alot a week ago he said like 8 hes just one of those guys he wants to have kids within the next 2 years but im not sure we both have steady good paying jobs but i dont know if i will be a good parent i know he will but me i dont know and hes always joking about us having a daughter and it being his little girl and his angel ,princess, girlie girl and it makes me smile i just dont know what do you guys think

Answer 1

Of corse it sounds nice when your hubby is sentimental like that but if you don't feel like you're ready, don't do it, it is a life changing thing and you need to feel absolutely ready before you decide.  On the other hand a lot of people don't have a lot of money when they have kids and things are tight usually but they always seem to be okay.  : ) Good Luck in whatever you decide : )

Answer 2

Do not bring a baby into this world unless the TWO of you are ready. You do need to express to your husband your feelings about this situation. Maybe you can volunteer somewhere with kids and get a feel for them. If you know someone who has young kids babysit for them as a couple and see how things are. Good luck!

Answer 3

It's my opinion that if you both aren't enthusiastic about starting a family, then you aren't ready.  While having a child is amazing, fun, etc. it is a lot of work.  You have to be prepared to sacrifice things if necessary - this includes money, time, and sleep.  You both are young enough that your clock isn't ticking away or anything.  I'd take the time to enjoy each other and in time, you will know when you are ready.

Answer 4

I think the fact that you are asking a bunch of strangers for advice on a topic as important as this shows a lack of confidence in yourself. This decision should be made between you and your husband and no one else. If you are going to have a child you are going to have to make many difficult decisions while raising them. Prove to yourself now that you can make the right choice on your own, whichever that choice may be.

Answer 5

If you have doubts don't do it.

Answer 6

I had a daughter at 16 ( I was still a kid ) now remarried no other kids (she is 12), love him. But we are not ready we ant to travel etc,etc.. But get to know on another vacation go out enjoy your marriage, Yes kids are beautifully but very stressful if not completely ready I would say NO. But in the end it what you feel.

Answer 7

As long as you have doubts its better not to get pregnant.  I would suggest though that you consider talking to someone about why you feel you would not be a good parent.  Do you ever want to have kids and if so, in fairness to your husband, you need to work through this.

Answer 8

No one is ever really ready emotionally, financially, etc.  It's the best experience you'll ever have bar none.   However, just make sure you talk about EVERYTHING first.   It's wonderful to have a husband that seems like he would be enamored with a daughter but talk about the hard facts of children.   Who is going to work and when?  If you both will work then what about childcare?  How many children can you have and be sure that they all get a fair shake at going to college?  Does you husband help out right now with the housework?  If he doesn't now then he won't then either.   Cover lots of ground before you take the plunge.   The good thing about having them young is that you'll still be fairly young when they leave the house and you'll be young grandparents.   Children are awesome but lots of work - you don't realize that your freedom really is gone for good when you have a baby.   It's worth the trade but it can be a difficult adjustment.  Stay communicating with each other and you'll find the right answer.