my uncle (unmarried, no kids) was my grandfathers full time carer for 16yrs. my grandfather died nearly 2yrs ago. it hit him hard. he started struggling for money, but wouldnt look for a job as all the money stopped - carers allowance, my grandas penions, etc. we all pitched in - i didnt have a lot of money as me and my BF were expecting our daughter, but i went to carers centres, got him info on how to qualify as a carer, got him appoinment to find out what benefits he was entitled to, bought him food shopping etc. other family members paid bills - but he only asked for the money for bills when they were going into disconnection of elec, gas, phone etc. so they sorted that out.
now the latest is that he cant pay his mortgage. he called my mum and asked for the money, she said no as she helped me with my daughter christening and that its been nearky 2yrs and he hasnt bothered to look for a job. when he gets bills now the first thing he does is take them to my aunt.
now my aunt is making out like we are the bad ones for not helping him as he will lose the house but we cant afford it, and my mum is sick of handing out money to him when he isnt trying to help himself.
what do you think, help him or not?
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