Should we move away from family?

Question

My father and his wife just recently relocated to North Carolina from AZ. All of my immediate family lives in AZ and my husband and I have lived here our entire lives. We have 9 nieces and nephews and we are very close with my sisters and their families. Here is the problem...we hate AZ! We have always been interested in living someplace else, especially in NC, so it's so funny that my father decided to move there of all places. I am pregnant with our first child and we really want to raise our children in a place like Garner, NC. We love how green it is and the small town feel of it. I know my father would love having family close to him as it was very hard for him to leave us all to begin with. Here's the problem, as bad as my husband and I want to get out of AZ I am very afraid to "leave the nest" and be away from my sisters and nieces and nephews. My husband would leave in a heartbeat. I know I would have my Dad... but is it worth leaving home to live someplace you have always dreamed of living or is it better to stay in a place you don't really like for family sake? Should we spread our wings since this is our one and only life to live?

Answer 1

You can always move back if you miss home.

Answer 2

I would try moving to Garner, NC.  North Carolina is a beautiful state and you are young and ready for a change of scenery.  If you don't I think you will always regret that you didn't give it a try.  I have moved several times during my life and have found that I am happy living anywhere as long as I am with my husband.  Since our children are grown with families of their own I also want to live close enough that I can frequently make a trip to visit them.

Answer 3

Okay take your life, put in the choice to stay in AZ & fast forward 10 yrs.  That's me.  We are now married 10 years we chose to stay here for family 10 yrs ago & now our families are scattered all over the place & we are considering a relocation now with 5 kids.  My advice would be take the plunge & let everyone know you are going to test the waters & if all else fails you will be back.  But that you don't want that never ending "What if" factor to haunt you forever.  These days you can keep pretty close contact with friends & family via email cell phones & text.  I say JUMP!