Should we put the wedding on hold? If so How do I tell him I think we should?

Question

We only have about $500 for a wedding. That includes the license. everything.Should we wait till we have more money around to get married?

Answer 1

It depends on what's important to you. Do you want a ceremony and reception? With a bunch of people? The dress, the tux, the cake. If so, then wait until you have more money. Or why don't you plan your wedding for a year from now. Most vendors only require small deposits and most of it is not due until closer to the wedding. That would give you time to work and save money. If none of that is important to you, then you could definitely have something a lot smaller for $500.

Answer 2

you could opt for a wedding ceremony, but no reception...

OR

you could have the ceremony so the reception would end up at a non-meal part of the day and serve snacks and punch

OR

you plan to get married at the courthouse and plan a reception to celebrate your marriage at a later date so you could save money and afford the reception

Answer 3

If you don't care about the whole big, showy circus wedding, all you need to get married is like $20 for the license and a lot of love.  Marriage isn't about the wedding- it's about the commitment you're making to another person for life.  If that's the part that's important to you, go get married in the courthouse, with maybe a nice dinner for your family and close friends afterwards.  If you want to hold out for the whole wedding production with the big dress and cake and all that, you may want to postpone it and save a little more.  But $500 is plenty for a very small, intimate, meaningful wedding without all the bells and whistles.

Answer 4

i would wait. if youre going to get married anyway, whats the rush? You'll probably live a less streesful ife if you start out with a little more money

Answer 5

Wait, you would have a much better wedding with more money.

Answer 6

If you want a big wedding, save up!

If you don't want anything big, $500 is fine!

Answer 7

I have seen so many couples who, after they have been married for years, decide they now want a "real" wedding. When they're told that's not possible, they are sad/angry. Hosting a vow renewal later is nothing like a wedding and is not a good "replacement" or tradeoff. If having a wedding is important to you at all, then I would suggest waiting until you can afford the wedding you want. If you're this financially strapped, it may be a good idea to wait to be married anyway.

Answer 8

Do you have enough money for rent or mortgage, utilities, transportation, food, and other basic living expenses?  If not, then IMO you have other issues to work on before tackling marriage.  If you have enough money to live on and only have $500 in savings for a wedding, then I think if you choose to get married, you should get married at a justice of the peace, as you need more than $500 in savings.

Answer 9

I would only if you want to have the decorations,food,blah blah stuff.

Answer 10

Do you want a big wedding, or a simple, family gathering?

If you feel like you need to wait till you have enough money to have a bigger wedding then you should wait...

But my whole wedding cost around $350:

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We are having a Cruise Renewal of Vows Ceremony in 2010 to include my family who wasn't able to attend...

That's going to cost us about $5K and will be a bit of a grander affair than our "in by 11:30 am, out by Noon, go to a restaurant with your six 'guests' afterwards" wedding.

I'm happy with our decision, and don't regret it at all...

Only do what you know you can live with...