Should we try for a daughter?

Question

My husband and I just had our first child together 2 1/2 months ago. We had a little boy. We both have two sons from a previous marriage. So that makes 5 sons for us. Should we try for a daughter in a couple of years or just stop with the boys we have. The four older boys (ages 9, 10, 17, and 18) all want a sister.

Answer 1

It seems like genetically speaking your chances of a girl are low. They say that if 2 of the same gender come in a row that's more likely what you keep getting.  

And you should never have a baby for this reason.  wWhat if it has special needs will you still love it?

Answer 2

Never hurts to try - but you have a 50/50 shot of having another boy - are you ok with that?  If it's a boy - will you be depressed about it?  My hubby and I had 2 boys and were back and forth about trying for #3 our girl.  Well, we got pregnant and found out it was a girl.  We were so happy.  But we would've been happy if it was another boy too.

Answer 3

I think you should stick to 5 boys...because if you try there is always a chance that you MIGHT have another boy! =D

Answer 4

adopt... 6 kids is ALOT and its too risky that you'll end up w/ another boy

there are so many children out there that need homes.

adopt a beautiful baby girl

Answer 5

Only have another child if you want another one regardless of gender.  I have had 4 boys and am expecting again.  I do not care one way or the other if this baby is a boy or a girl (and I am soooo tired of everyone thinking that I have my heart set on a girl this time).  I absolutely adore my boys, so having another one would be fine with me.  I never got pregnant trying for one or the other.  Whatever will be, will be...as the saying goes.

Answer 6

as long as you are healthy and can support the children ,not depending on welfare,food stamps or other money from such places why not??? i wanted a dozen but could not afford that many.but i am happy with my 5 children-- 3 girls and 2 boys!!!

good luck!!!

Answer 7

Honestly I think you should be happy with your 5 boys.

If you have a girl you will see that she will be more difficult then all the 5 boys together.

Answer 8

you already have quite a few children, so it relies on how many you think you can handle. how would you be if you had another son? also, you're not used to raising a girl. but whatever you want, go for it! also consider adoption- it's a great thing to do...and you're guaranteed a girl :)

Answer 9

My husband and I are contemplating the same issue. I have been pregnant five times (our second pregnancy ended in a miscarriage) and all five children have been boys. I would LOVE to have a little girl, my husband is willing to give it another try, but would not mind if we didn't. We have a few relatives that accept that we would possibly like to continue to expand our family and others who are very negative when the topic is discussed.

I have come to realize that the decision is a personal one that deserves a lot of thought. I think the most important question that needs to be answered- which others have mentioned- is whether or not you will be happy if the baby is a boy. Because there's a 50/50 chance it would be. It would be fair for the baby to be resented because he was the wrong s*x.

I think as long as you are doing your job as a parent providing for your current children and you would be able to continue to do so with an additional child and you are prepared to love that child no matter what s*x it is, go for it.

Best of luck to you- no matter what you decide.

Answer 10

If you want more children by all means!. :-)

However since your husband has already fathered 3 sons the chances of a daughter are quite low. The father plays a very large role in determining gender and your having all boys adds to this too.

It is still very possible though and I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide!

Answer 11

umm ur 18 yr old is on the verge of possibly having kids in a couple of yrs, wait and see if the 18 or 17 yr old give u a granddaughter  lol

Answer 12

I don't blame you I would want a little girl too...I have two and they are delightful. If you and your husband want another child then by all means have another baby...JUST be prepared in case it is another little boy...because that is a STRONG possibility....

Answer 13

If you want a girl that badly and you think you can handle 5 kids (albeit two are quite a bit older and assumably more mature) then I don't see why you shouldn't. You have to think whether you'll be happy with 5 boys knowing that you didn't try for the girl one last time, or if you would be happier with 6 boys knowing you tried everything possible to get a girl.

All the best with your little one, and good luck in the future

Answer 14

Well, if don't mind risking getting another boy then go ahead try again but if you only want a girl then adopt.

My parents have 4 boys and me (a gilr lol).