Should we wait to buy things for a baby until we have one?

Question

My wife and I are trying to have a baby. Is it wrong for us to be buying things for a baby if we aren't even pregnant yet? Babies are expensive, so why cram buying everything into those few months of pregnancy? Am I wrong for thinking this way? I mean we could just buy simple stuff like the furniture a piece at a time. My parents say no and my wife is also leaning toward the no-end, as well. Please help!

Answer 1

if you and your wife want to buy things for a baby I say go for it.  You are right they are expensive but as far as clothes I would probably wait until you know what you are going to have.

Answer 2

Instead of buying the things maybe you could put the money aside, like a baby savings. I usually label an envelop and just put money in there to save up.  

Answer 3

You could always just start putting money away into a savings account to buy baby things.  You never know what peope are going to give you once you do get pregnant.  And that way the money will be there for the things you still need to buy (or to help pay bills).

Answer 4

for the most part i would wait but if you see something amazing on super sale or limited edition and super cute and you MUST have... i'd say that's ok... but if you're having a babyshower, you might get a lot of stuff you need so i'd wait... save money.

also... you don't know how long you'll be TTC.

Answer 5

i think personally that if you buy things and you dont conceive quickly or for a few years or ever that this will break your heart more. i waited till 4 weeks before my due date because i felt like i would be tempting faith. but if you think you could cope with looking  at baby items if things dont go to plan then go for it. but personally i'd wait till baby was almost born there's no need to rush. having those things there is going to make you want a baby quicker which may not help conception  

Answer 6

Having tried to get pregnant for 22 months, I would say wait. The last thing I could deal with emotionally right now is going down to the basement and looking at piles of unopened baby furniture in boxes. Take the stress off yourself and save the shopping fun until you're in the second trimester.  

Answer 7

You can go ahead and buy stuff if you want, but what if you never do get pregnant? Then what will you do with the stuff? I'm trying to get regnant as well and I do feel tempted to buy stuff sometimes, but it's just not practical in my eyes.  

Answer 8

you could, but there is always the slight chance that you will have fertility issues and i promise that it would be very depressing to have all of this baby stuff around if you had trouble conceiving. 9 months is PLENTY of time to stock up on any and all baby things. why not just start putting away money in an account now so that when you are pregnant you will have money saved for the things you wanted to buy now.  

Answer 9

My husband and I are ttc for a year now and every couple of months we buy diapers. We also buy gift cards when we are at Target or Walmart. I don't think it hurts to be a little prepared, I think it just depends on what your buying. Good Luck!

Answer 10

I personally don't think you are wrong for thinking that way because you are obviously excited and really want to have a baby, but I think the reason your wife and parents are saying no is because they don't want to be set up for disappointment just in case something happens and she can't get pregnant, or has a miscarriage (god forbid), but you know things like that happen so perhaps that's why they are leaning towards no.. I would just have a talk about it with your wife and do whatever you two feel comfortable with doing.. I suppose it doesn't hurt to buy things ahead of time though.