Should you be close to your boyfirneds family? ?

Question

You know for some reason I don't know if its a problem but I am getting really close to his family. Everyone likes me inclding all the children. The thing is theres alot of drama and all the wonem come to me with questions about my realationship and how it compares to theres and basically problems they are having and gossip about eacother. Now look here, I don't say anything to anyone not even to my boyfriend. Is that wrong or is it worng for me even to talk or engage in a conversation with them when me and my boyfriend go visit? I don't like drama but they do. I need advice.

Answer 1

keep them at arms length but don't alienate them.  pretty soon you will be in the middle of some **** that you don't wanna be in.  if they gossip with you about other family members imagine what they'll say about you!  good luck and watch your back...

Answer 2

are you interested on having a closest relationship with him? you know in the future?if you are..uhm..there maybe some hard thing going on there...trouble ladies ,talking, bla bla,gossip,intrusive people,etc.Ok wherever you want If this is just for now anyways let them talk all they want...just put your limits and let them know it... listen to everything and limit your comments...live like if you were on a cloud the all time...get it?even if you look like you don't have an opinion or like if you don't know anything about anything...who cares? just be worried about building up your relationship with your love.

Now if this is going to be a longterm relationship...work it out girl...but work it with who you are with. your boyfriend or future wherever he becomes...tell him about the way you are, what you like and don't like about his family,etc, and set up the cards on the table for them too... in this situations sometimes you don't even know when everybody else is trying to manipulate your relationship,telling you what to do, how to do it,etc.Plus if your boyfriend really loves you he should support you ,anyways there are too many things to say here...just this is a little personal opinion.it is up to you.Good luck.

Answer 3

It's okay for you to be close to the family, but you need to let them know that you're relationship is separate from family gossip. Besides, if they have problems with each other, let them deal with it. Gossip in the family is so immature.

Answer 4

well you should have a good relationship with thier parents cause it will help you out in the future! What i mean is that you probally have an itention on marrying your BF, and when you do, they're going to be part of your family. If things aren't good now, they might get worser later!

I have a simaler problem, i need help with, can you help! plz!

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thanks!