Should you but regisitry information on wedding invitations?

Question

My fiance and I already have a home and really don't need a lot of housewares. What is the proper way to lie monetary or gift cards?

Answer 1

Sorry it's a big fat no-no. You don't list registry information on the invites. You can list it on your website... if you don't have a website you can make one for free. You can also let people know where you are registered by word of mouth.

There is no proper way to ask for money. No matter how you spin it. It's rude.

Answer 2

You cannot ask for money it is tacky and wrong.  Gifts are not at the receiver's request, they are from the generosity of the giver's heart.  To ask for a gift is wrong and to ask for a gift of money is crass greedy seeming.

If you are registered at a shop for gifts you should not put that info on the invitation itself but you can include a card or piece of paper with your registry info on it.

Answer 3

You decide what you want..tell them that you don't need housewares..or maybe if they do buy you stuff bring it back, then get the money for it. So you don't hurt anyone's feelings.

Answer 4

No, you shouldn't. It's rude.

Answer 5

Don't worry about what "etiquette" says - while it does has its place, you also have to take into consideration that it is fairly outdated and often does not apply to 21st century!

Include in your invitation a "wishing well poem". There are SO many of these available on the web, or write your own!

Here are some examples:

They have their dishes and towels for two,

They have pots and pans and oven mitts too.

So what do you get for the bride & groom

whose house is setup in every room?

Their house needs repairs and some upgrades too,

But you can not register for carpet and glue.

A  Wishing Well is the way to go,

so lets make it easy for all that know.

An envelope will be provided for those who have room,

To give a monetary wish to the bride and groom.

A Wishing Well will be on display at the reception hall

to complete your wishes, for the couple, with love from all.

OR

To save you looking,

shopping and buying,

Here is an idea

we hope you'll like trying!

Come to our wedding

to wish us both well,

And make some use

of our little wishing well.

Just put some money into a card,

Now make a wish....

See, that wasn't hard!

Now that we have saved you all of

the fuss,

We hope that you will come

And celebrate with us !

etc.

This way, guests will understand that you prefer money, but they still have the option of buying you a gift if they prefer. Guests LIKE to know what you prefer, as most have no idea what you want and don't want to buy you something you won't use anyway.

The Wishing well is EXTREMELY popular nowadays, especially in Australia (where I am). You can even hire or buy small treasure chests/wishing wells with slots for the envelopes of money. You can also provide envelopes next to the well/chest for guests who didn't bring an envelope and just have loose cash.

Great idea huh?

Answer 6

I can't understand why this question keeps coming up day after day.   You do not tell your guests what to get you for a gift.  It is their choice.  You can list your wants on a registry or on a wedding page web site, but you don't put it in the invitations.

Answer 7

don't put it on the invitations but do let it spread by word of mouth. tell your parents because i'm sure family will ask them for an idea of what to get you and then they can gently mention that you already have most everything you need for a house so they may want to get ya'll a gift card instead of risking it.