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Should you please your partner even though your not really into it?

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My girlfriend is into handcuffing me and being in control. It's OK, I do it to please her and make her happy. Just like I love slippery oily s*x and she's not really into it as mush as I am. She does it because she knows I love it. It makes me happy. My question is...

Should you please your partner even though your not really into what he or she likes?

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Yes I think so unless it gets to the point where it's making one of you feel uncomfortable.
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If every relationship there has to be some comprimise, but if this is somthing you really do not enjoy, you should be comfortable with her to talk to her about it. I mean dont do it just to make her happy as she should not be doing things just to make you happy. I mean it should make you happy knowing you are pleasing her, but if this is a big issue in your relationship you should just try to talk to her. She might be ok to it & just know that it isnt somthing you love!
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YES.... it's all about pleasing the other person to me!http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...
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Yes you should.

or, they will leave.
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It's about compromise from both sides. If anyone one feels they are doing it more than the other or the other isn't doing it enough then resentment builds and the breakdown of the relationship ensues. There is no, "yes or no" Only how much.
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Depends on what it means by "not really into it".  If it's painful, no.  If you're tired, sometimes.  If you're feeling upset or non-intimate, no.  If it's something that you just find weird, well yes you should try it.

My wife never pleases me sexually, and it has been that way for 12 years of marriage.  I don't know why and she won't tell me.  I'm really upset about it.

I used to give her oral s*x until she orgasmed.  After about 9 years i finally woke up and figured i was an idiot, so I'll never do it again until she initiates s*x or says she wants it.  I love to make people feel good, especially sexually.
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I did something last night found out I wasn;t really into it. . . (kissing a girl) but did thinking back enjoy the fact that I was turning on and pleasing my BF.

here's the story. . .http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Guess the answer lies in if you get enjoyment out of knowing that you are pleasing or exciting them. If it pleases you to please them then go for it.
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marriage is about eachother. Making eachother happy. Its 50/50, so if shes doing what makes u feel good, you do what makes her feel good. But dont lie and say u enjoy it, but also dont say u hate it cause then that will make her feel bad about doing it.
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Yeah but it needs to be reciprocal. If you're both giving then it's a win win!
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Yes as long as the meet your needs too
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To a point.
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so long as no one is getting hurt, why not?
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if you're not really into it, maybe you're not really into the girl....
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Yes...if your bi, straight, or g*y, it does not matter! A relationship is a give and take. Well, to  point. When I first meet my wife she wanted to try some of the freaky stuff I like. But now that we have a 2 year old, freakyness has taken a back seat and just having alone time for s*x is great. LOL

Anyway, Just make sure your girlfriend knows where your limits are. And have some fun for me. I miss it.
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If it has nothing to do with going in the wrong place lol or some really gross fetish. I will try in a few times however if I do not like it I will tell him.
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Ewwww. You're a girl. Ewwww.
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first..your question is fine...spare the details.

but yes you should please your partner. Especially if they please you.
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Cool! Girl on girl. Can I watch?
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What do some people say? Try anything once, if your REALLY like, do it again! LOL

Actually, do like that Sheryl Crow song. "If It makes You Happy".
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hmm yeh kind of sort of...but I think there is a thin line though. I don't believe anyone should do anything that they are not ok with. If one is suffering pain and really uncomfortable with stuff then that is a no no! If you really hate doing something, then DON"T do it. Alot of communication is to be needed and understanding from both sides. Noone should be forced or guilt co-erced into doing anything just to please the other person.
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Yes, that is part of what makes relationships work - compromising and doing things for the other. However that being said it needs to be an equal amount of compromising and not one partner always giving in to the other...

Care to answer one of mine?

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The Large Mammal is correct its a 50/50 thing if you can't please her she WILL go elsewhere as will any man too. As long as it is not hurting someone than do it. I do
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i think every couple should try to please each othr even i they're not that fond of it. it should be 50/50. but if u really can't stand someting then u shouldn't do it.
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As long as it doesn't make you feel uncomfortable in any way, there's nothing wrong with going along with it.
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yes you should...keep sucking until I tell you to quit!
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