Should youngsters be allowed to date older people?

Question

When you were at school were you allowed to date girls/boys older than you (in a different grade)? I was not allowed to date older boys. Do you think it is a good "rule" or not?

Answer 1

I dont think so...

But to each their own either way, who am I to say one cant date out of their age group? Just that it comes with a lot of complications and a young person needs to be young as does an old person need to be mature. The age gap will cause issues such as the youngster longing to be with someone younger who wont face back problems when they go out clubbing...

Answer 2

I don't see a problem with dating someone 2 or 3 years older.

Answer 3

I tried once to date someone of my age & it was a disaster! It was like dating someone younger than me. He wasn't stimulating me mentally so it ended. I've since dated guys that are at least 3yrs older than me.

Answer 4

No i don't approve  -  particularly if the guy is much older or working and the girl is still in school  -  it is asking for trouble, what happens if she is pregnant.......in the end she is stuck with the kids , alone, they are both to young for the responsibilities

Answer 5

I never thought about it at school, because there were many beautiful girls in my age group. Come to think about it, all the girls in my year group were quite pretty. Maybe if there are two or three years in age difference, it should not matter.

Answer 6

Depends on the parents rules. I wasn't allowed to  date untill i was 17/18 because of school work. So don't feel like your parents are strict, they are just looking out for in there own way.

Answer 7

I think if I ever have a daughter, I will follow Skoobies life philosophy.

As for school boys, no, I doubt that there is much harm in them dating women slightly older than themselves (3 years at the most though), there is no better life education than on the job training and a few burns along the way only builds character, I personally dated many older girls and found it helped me mature a lot faster than most guys my age (at that time), I've regressed since then.

As for school girls, no, they should never be allowed to date older guys, especially in the higher grades where the boys hormones have completely taken over and they have only one objective in mind with any girl and younger girls are definitely easier targets for success.

I think setting strict rules for dating creates a breeding ground for rebellion, I'll try as far as possible to be reasonable when I one day have to set such rules.

Answer 8

I honestly never date, I do friends with benifits, but its the parents/teenagers decision.

Answer 9

My daughter aint allowed to have boyfriends!

Answer 10

Doesn't matter if he / she 3-5 years older then you. More than that is not good.

Answer 11

I was 16 in grade 11 (standard 9) and my boyfriend was 21 and assistant manager at Picknpay.  He was an old friend of the family and a total gentleman.   I should have married him, then I would have had more money !!! Ha, ha.

So it depends on the circumstances. How mature is the girl and how mature is the boy etc.

Answer 12

To use an old Dutch expression : "op 'n oue Fiets moet ye dit lere). I had a date when I was 17 with a girl of 21. My parents cracked, and I was not allowed in the clubs due to my age. Needless to say the relationship did not last long.

Answer 13

I have only dated one girl younger than me in my last 6 relationships. The biggest gap was 4 years older than me. Varkise I feel the way many women feel, that girls my age are immature. I cant stand people that have only their way of thinking and living. I want a intelligent open minded person and most girls younger cant be that. I live by the motto: I dont want to know everything about one thing, I want to know something about everything. I hate it to walk into a conversation and half the people cant talk about the subject. BTW im 23 if that makes you understand why I have the prob with immature girls