Shouldn't he wear his ring?

Question

My husband and I have been married for 3 years soon to be 4. He does not wear his wedding ring everyday. He says it is because of his job. I say take it off while working then when you clock out put it back on. What do you think? I never take mine off.

Answer 1

i think he's full of S**t. my ex-husbands never wore there rings (because of they're jobs) and women hit on them because of it. They BOTH ended up cheating. Hense why they're ex's

I hit on a few married men and they didnt tell me that they were married till after a few dates. They didnt wear they're rings because of they're 'jobs'

there is really no job out there where they cant wear there rings. There are a few, and i'm almost certain your husbands job isnt one of them. What is he in 'construction, garbage man, Military, Bartender?? Try Pipe Layer.

Can I ask you, is this recent.. meaning the last few years?

Your husband is lying lady.. dont fall for it.

Answer 2

I agree , he should always wear his ring , why does he take it off at work ?? If he can't wear it there , she should wear it as soon as he leaves , until he goes back ...  

Answer 3

I would be unhappy too if my husband would not wear his ring! I hear a lot of men say that they don't wear their ring because of their jobs or whatever! But. if you are just wearing a band, then there is really no occupation that would warrant removing a band! I mean, it's hard to catch a band on anything unless you work with electricity or something! When I hear a guy or a girl for that matter, say that they don;t wear their ring for whatever reason, the first thing I think is that they don't want people to know that they are married! And, I'm sure that other people think the same thing when they hear it! If he does happen to have a ring that has a stone in it or something that could get caught up and cause injury, then invest in a wedding band so he will be able to wear it!

Answer 4

My husband is the same way, He's a plumber so I can understand his not wanting to wear it, it has diamonds on it, but I have to practically beg him to wear it, h**l, unless we are going somewhere out that is, I have to ASK him to wear it.  I pretty much gave up.  But I also, take mine off at night, my hands swell and I won't wear it to bathe, clean etc.  The less I ask, the more he surprises me to by wearing it.  I've pretty much just gave up worrying about it

Answer 5

It's depend on his job.  If he works labor job with his hands then yes it makes sense.  People know he's married, it's not a big deal.  

Answer 6

I don't see what the big deal is.  I know it's supposed to be a 'symbol of your love' but, as long as you DO love each other, it shouldn't matter.

Answer 7

What's his job? If he's an electrician or construction worker...he could get his finger cut off...If he's an office worker...he want to look single...Take Care

Answer 8

So he can loose it?  I would rather him keep it safely at home in the box than to keep it at work until he clocks out.  Someone could steal it or he could just loose it.  

My dad never wore his wedding ring because of his job.  He worked in a factory and at first, he actually did.  then he got his hand smashed in a machine and the ring was crushed around his finger.  He had to get the ring cut off and it almost cost him his finger.  After that, he never wore it unless it was a special occasion.  Even at home just around the house or yard, he wouldn't because he was always fixing this or that, doing this yardwork or whatever.  It can cause serious injury so I wouldn't be upset about it.    

Answer 9

My husband works and flies on helicopters so yes i understand that its not a good idea to wear it because your finger can get ripped off. But i don't know what your husband does. Just remember honey he can cheat even if he is wearing the ring. I think the issue is that you don't trust him. Work on that!

Answer 10

What kind of work does he do? A lot of men have jobs where it is dangerous to wear rings. My dad farms, I never remember seeing him with his wedding band on. Not that he didn't want to wear it, it's just easy to forget. My FIL never wears his anymore either. His got caught between negative and positive cables while working, heated the ring up and pulled his skin off when the ring came off.

Now if you suspect your husband is taking it off so that he appears single, well that's absolutely wrong.

Answer 11

Well, I can understand because of his job... he has no habit of wearing it, so it makes it harder to remember to put it on. I went through this with my husband, who now can wear his because hes changed jobs for the time being.

My question is, do you want a divorce over it? Is this the battle you want to choose? I doubt it... I'm just not seeing this as a big deal, because there is a valid reason for not wearing. Now, if he was going out with the boys on the weekend and refused to wear it... I would have a problem there...

I do like the suggestion of a tattoo. That way he wont be wearing one for work, and it will always be on for you.  

Answer 12

Yeah, he takes it off and then he looses it. Then you'll nag him about that. Or, perhaps he just wears it everyday like  you do, and gets his finger torn off because of it.

Answer 13

If his job actually requires you to wear no jewelry it would be fine but does the job actually require this?  

Answer 14

My husband couldn't wear his to work when we were married for the first 4 years. He only wore it when we went out on the weekends, but during the week it stayed in his dresser, which is probably the safest place it could be. Who's to say it wouldn't fall out of his pocket or get stolen from his tool box, and just to put it on to sit around the house after work seems kind of pointless. You know he's married.

This is one of those pick your battles issues.  

Answer 15

I guess it depends on what kind of job he does, but like you say, some days he wears it and some days he doesn't.  I only take mine off in the shower so the stone doesn't get soap in it.  

Answer 16

Well, my husband is a mechanic and wearing his ring could result in the loss of his finger.  He used to take it off and then put it on after work but after he lost it - he decided that leaving it at home was better.  He does wear it when we go out but other than that, it sits on his dresser.  

Answer 17

My husband does the same thing. It hurt a little at first, but he really does have a pretty messy job. He fixes appliances at constantly sticks his hands in dirt and grime and tight places that the ring can slip off in. He comes home with scratches and crud on his hands and I've come to realize why he prefers to take it off while working. It doesn't mean he thinks less of me, he just doesn't want to get such a nice thing lost or ruined. I never take mine off either, but all I do for work is take orders at a drive through.

What does your husband do for a living? Is it reasonable to think that his job would pose a hazard to his ring?

Answer 18

If your husband works in an office then he should wear it.  But if he works with his hands in anyway it is actually quite dangerous for him to wear. It's a lot to ask of him to take on and off.  As long as he has it on when out in public that is what counts.  The fact that he is clocking in and clocking out tells me is is working hard to help support his family.  I'd be grateful for that and not be so fixated on a ring.

Answer 19

Men are different than us women.  It's not a big deal to them.  He probably takes it off for work and forgets to put it back on.

I wouldn't worry.  I doubt he's doing it for the wrong reasons.

Answer 20

I think its fine to leave it off because of work, guys don't think like us, we would remember to put it back on.  No big deal, suggest a tattoo.

Answer 21

If his job will put the ring or his finger in harm's way, keep it off

Answer 22

I hardly wear mine, my wife hates it. I do not like wearing any type of jewelry. I have never even wore a necklace, it just irratates me. With or without a ring on you can still cheat. So basically it is just a statement to other people, hey, I'm married. I can say the same thing.  

Answer 23

So he doesn't wear his ring why is that a big deal? If he is going to cheat on you he will whether he wears a ring or not. If you are that

worried about him doesn't say much for your relationship or your trust level. My husband never wore a ring and it didn't bother me. If he

can't wear it at work and a lot of men in the trades can't for safety reasons I can't see having to remember to stick it on every night after my shift just to please my wife who is paranoid.

Answer 24

You only need to see one man get his finger ripped off by rotating machinery to appreciate not wearing a ring.

Answer 25

I would be more worried if he was going out with his friends or by himself and not wearing his ring. I wear my ring when I'm at work and then usually take it off at home, mainly because I'm a klutz and bang my ring hand into things all the time. I love my ring and am always worried about scratching it up. My husband jokingly bugs me when I take it off, but if you have trust and security backing your marriage you have no worries.

Answer 26

I think your real concern here is that he is cheating and that is why he is not wearing his wedding band.  If so, honey he can cheat if he wears it or not. Work out the trust issues and the there won't be any issues with the ring.

Answer 27

What's he do for a living?

I wore one my first 4 years of marriage. I worked undercover and removed it and haven't worn it since.

The ring doesn't physically stop anyone from doing anything. Besides...it's been my experience that there are plenty of women who see you have a ring on and make a run on you anyway.

Start looking for other signs but carefully. You should never jump the gun until you're sure. And don't go looking for stuff that isn't there. If he screws around you'll see signs. Sooner or later it'll surface due to his becoming complacent.

Answer 28

If my husband took his ring off for work I wouldn't care but if it wasn't on his finger by the time he got home he knows he would get an ear full he doesn't want me to take mine off so he better have his on.

Answer 29

every person is different.  Work is a good reason to not wear a ring.  Ask him to put it on when he gets home and when he's not working.  Let him know it would make you feel better.

Answer 30

I think the take it off thing is a load of BS.....some jobs yes..but most of the time the job isnt even that bad. If he really does have to take it for his job fine. But he should always wear it

Answer 31

I think he should wear it, I wear mine all the time. I do, however have friends who don't including their wives?  I think the key is that both of you get on and are the same people you used to be, at the end of the day it is merely a symbol of marriage not a protection over it.