Shy..... that about explains it. ?

Question

I become really shy around guys... even the ones that i dont like.... why??? and how do i become... not... shy.

Also in general im very shy .... and it takes me like 3 hours to get warmed up and actually have fun doing something.... like at parties or just chillin wit friends...... HELP PLEASE!!!!

Answer 1

maybe your really uncomfortable around them cause either you don't know them or it's really just  uncomfortable just to get used them until you really know them.  well you might be able to just break out of your shell if you just talk to your friends and they might help you out and you can be able to not be shy

Answer 2

You can believe in yourself. Tell yourself that you're not gonna be shy. Ok? Stick to yourself girl!

Answer 3

The only way to get over your shyness a little or even a lot is to stop caring about what anyone thinks about you. If someone doesn't like you who cares, they are the ones that missed the good stuff, not you. No one can help you with this except yourself. I used to be shy, but after I started college one of the things I got used to doing (since I started without any friend at all) was to look for a girl that was lunching alone and sit and talk to her naturally, as someone who just got their food and looked for a seat. I did that 4 times a week at lunch at my college during 1 full semester. I did not care about outcomes or anything. I did not talk a 2nd time with the ones that did not seem interested and I didn't care either. Out of the 8 or 9 girls that enjoyed talking to me (I could notice it), there are 3 that are still my friends and the only reason why I didn't hook up with 2 of them was that they had a bf already, but they loved talking to me and I learned a lot so I am not complaining, the others? I simply didn't cross paths with them again too bad...... remember I was shy, but this like everything in life takes practice to get better. The practice for this is talking to other people (just be smart duh! make sure these other people are the kind of people that you want to talk to, I never talked to S****y looking girls, I always talked to nice/quiet looking ones that obviously were eating by themselves; and several days I ate by myself because there was no one like that eating alone... I know what I want duh), being confident, and simply put don't giving a c**p about what anyone thinks about you helps a lot as well. I can say I am 100% confident about talking to anyone right now, due to that practice I got. Yet I am still very independent, don't like parties that much (never did anyways), prefer to study alone (always worked better for me), and I am not the "life of the party" or anything like that; that's just not the way I am, but I am confident, quite nice and funny, and I feel good about myself now. You don't need to change yourself because that's wrong, but you can gain self-confidence. Just think mature, be smart (socially smart is what I am talking about here, you don't need to be loud or too talkative to be smart in this sense), and be yourself. It is not easy, but I can tell you that it is true that feeling good with oneself is important, I might be single but I feel better about myself after I started exercising and not caring about what anyone thinks of me. If they like me, great! if not they missed it and I won't lose my time with them. This way I am also making sure that I get interested in someone that also likes me and not someone that doesn't care about me. Good luck to you and me :p although I am not shy anymore (still not the most talkative either but whatever I feel fine and that's what matters)