Shyness and body image?

Question

I was having a rant at my dad why I always s***w up my words when talking to people. Its down to the aspergers syndrome, but I think its because I always worry what people think.

Like today, I was getting extremely sensitive about my appearance. Not just because I have ginger hair, but also my scars and the hole in my chest. Whenever I hear women or anyone making jibes about any of the above, especially about red hair, I feel boxed in. I have been a victim of and have witnessed prejudice in the past, a lot. Its debilitating when you warm to a woman who you thought was nice, but is actually a racist. I guess I have to face facts that most women will not appreciate me as a ginger male, just like most won't a bald man. I don't blame them. To them its a putrid and disgusting colour, and all the abuse that comes to me just seems accepted as if that **** doesn't hurt me. Well, it does, and you have just damaged any trust I had in you.

I hate being in this world when I am faced with such issues. I wish I could do something that would make it all go away. I would rather die than face anyone in this world.

Answer 1

You really shouldn't worry about having ginger hair. I have ginger hair and used to feel exactly the same. I then learned to embrace it and I actually get alot of compliments. Do you watch Big Brother? Rex is ginger but the ladies love him. Why? because the colour of his hair isn't an issue.  I think you need to work on your self esteem and confidence and realise that you are good enough for this world. You seem very depressed so go to your doctor for help.

Answer 2

There are some truly pathetic people in this world, and whoever insults you about your hair is one of them. Although I don't have red hair, I get realle pi$$ed off if I hear someone insulting a person because of it. It happens to one of my closest friends, who has this beautiful red hair. Personally, I think its a really lovely hair colour. I suppose you have to except there are people out there who are just idiots. There are people who are racist, and there are people who aren't. There are people who will poke fun at appearances, and there are people who won't. Forget the idiots. and just have faith that most of the people you meet in this life will love you as you are.