Shyness or social anxiety? what is wrong with me?

Question

I have a great sense of humor when i get to know people but I have always been shy. Don't get me wrong, I can be ridiculously good-looking, but I still get nervous around new people.

[1] I stayed in my room bawling for two hours because I don't want to start a new high school.

[2] I sometimes try to avoid going to parties.

[3] I usually think people are whispering about me, but I brush it off. It has come to that because people actually have whispered mean stuff about me.

[4] I have been absent from events (school, hobbies, etc.) and seemed like a total flake because I was so set on not going.

WORST OF ALL :

I am always blushing. Say anything that has to do with me personally and I blush even if I'm not embarrassed. This isn't the cute or s**y blushing we are talking about. I'm talking about blushing as if someone just told you that you aren't wearing any pants.

What is wrong with me?

Answer 1

You're too self-conscious.  Once you grow mature enough to realize that the world isn't really all about you, you will stop blushing whenever you feel you are in the spotlight.  It is a matter of experience and maturity.  To start becoming less self-conscious, try thinking about things from other peoples' perspectives.  When you are less involved with thinking about yourself and how the world affects you, you will not even remember to be embarrassed.

Answer 2

at a guess aspegers which is nothing to stress about you find ways of dealing with it for me it is simpley frustrating you can talk to anyone about some thing you have an interest in but when it comes to intamacy on a personal level it all turns to cr** , still now I cant look some one in the eye easly it just dosnt feel right and when you do its like a challange its not anger but that would have to be the closest word to discribe it I think it is very hard to explain to any one you want the closeness but its a mighty battel to over come yourself and take that last 1cm step you just figure out what to do at the time so people tend to see you cold or stuck up that type of thing , it is frustrating as h**l all you can do is be your self as thats who you are best at pleaseing and let everyone else worry about what they think of you you know you great what others think is just white noise that only effects you if you want it to.

Answer 3

I wonder why we were never like this before we started going through school?

Answer 4

first of all you put all you stuff in the private setting so we cant see what else you have said ,hard to read a person for 2 paragraphs.

for your supposed age its normal to be shy,most are not the jock extroverts that do the crazy things.you are young and not sure of your self,so shyness is a natural consequence of that.

many people  of any age [gossip] so I'm sure some one is talking about you so dont get paranoid about it, it happens to every one.I'm sure you have talked about others all so. that part of high school life.some are loners, and some are extroverts.seeing that we can not gage your other responses ,i and others  cant be specific.

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if you knew the answer why ask us dont get pissed off at us!!. iv been a EMPATH all my life and what you are describing is not empathy it just having little self confidence.i cant tell you how to feel at the loss of some one, but being to shy to go to  a foot ball game ,has Little to do with it.

56 years of experence