Shyness problem, really getting me down.

Question

I dont no what the h**l is wrong with me? Im 19 years old nearly 20 I have always been extremily shy to the point where i feel i cant hold a normal conversation with anybody, i avoid meeting new people at all costs, and also the weird thing is i prefer talking to new people etc on my own, i feel embarrised if i have to do this infront of parents, my bf etc, i have been this way ever since i can remember.

the thing is i am pregnant, and i feel incredibly guilty because of course my bfs parents want to get involved but i avoid them at all costs because i really cant talk to them, its a serious problem for me as i have been with my bf nearly a year and a half now and have never ever had a decent conversation with his parents. why am i like this? it gets me down so much, i have been this way all through school etc and now im having a baby i need to grow up and snap out of it but i find this so difficult its making em depressed. why cant i talk to people? it feels alot worse and deeper than just shyness, will i be like this forever.

Answer 1

Go to your doctor and get yourself referred to a shrink. You really do sound like your suffering from lack of confidence and depression. I think having someone to talk to it about it would help a lot. It may seem daunting to do this, but it will be well worth it in the end.

Good Luck =)

Answer 2

Take one step at a time...

Slowly create more situations where you are friendlier- meeting people, and having conversations.

Develop more self-confidence- Just Be Yourself

Don't be afraid of saying the 'wrong thing'

Answer 3

I find I'm shy when I'm sober

Have a few drinks lol

Answer 4

Just like another respondent I too was painfully shy when younger. It does seem to be a family trait. My mother was the same and so is my daughter. They are both very attractive exceptionally competent people but found social contact difficult. I found that dutch courage helped me to socialise initially, but I would not recommend it. As you get more life experience the shyness will lessen considerably. My daughter has a successful career in advertising and overcame her shyness by having to deal with clients and present projects to strangers. You certainly do not need to see a, "shrink," as one person stated. The realisation that most people are not as confident as they seem might help  Face your fears and you will realise they are inevitably unfounded and you will develop into the confident person you wish to be.

Answer 5

I was like that, but as I got older, it got less & less.  

I don't quite know what to recommend other than counselling, but try Paul McKennas "instant confidence" book with mind programming CD - it helped me a fair bit.

Good luck & if you run out of conversation, just talk about baby stuff - I'm sure you could talk about that with anyone for hours!

Answer 6

Try explaining this to your boyfriend and maybe you could meet his mum on your own, so it would be just the two of you. Then the same with his dad. You may be more comftable meeting with them all together when you have already got to know them a bit.

You will get over it, you just need to take your time and move slowly.

Answer 7

if have a problem with being shy as well and i feel really left out sometimes because of it but i recently took part in drama school and  now i feel a lot more confident in my self xx