Sibling adoption gift?

Question

My adopted daughter sees her biological sister (also placed for adoption). I wanted to get an adoption related gift, but have not turned up anything that wows me on the internet. Does anybody have any ideas? Her sister is 5.

Answer 1

Your question is such a good example of the adoptive parent whose mind set is "adoption is wonderful" that they can't even begin to see what separation and loss adoptees feel.

Talking about adoption, and the loss and grief that comes with it, in a compassionate way is one thing, but getting a gift? I don't understand your thinking.

Answer 2

http://www.adoptshoppe.com/

They have some interesting things portraying to adoption.

EDIT: To those who gave me a thumbs down, I assume that is because it was assumed I was promoting this website. I don't. I completely agree with sunny. Just get her a normal gift.

Answer 3

What a good idea-- instead of letting them enjoy some rare, special time together without thinking of their profound loss from adoption, go buy some 'reminder' gift to rub their faces in the fact that adoption has torn them apart from one another.  And remind them that they're not like other children as well.

I knew this lady who had a Scottish Terrier, and everyone bought her Scotty dog stuff--she had quite the collection.  Jeez, if you start now, by the time she's an adult, she'll have loads of adoption themed merchandise!

Empathy is not your strong suit.

Answer 4

I would suggest getting her any gift. Like one you would give a sister. Toys, books, etc.....

Answer 5

She's FIVE.  Get her a Barbie.  Get her a stuffed toy.  At this age she doesn't need to be reminded she's adopted every time she turns around.

Answer 6

How about a necklace or charm of two halves of a heart torn apart, the kind that when placed together form a whole, albeit cracked heart.

That's a pretty appropriate adoption-related gift.

ETA: Sunny that was very well expressed. I totally agree.

ETA emma thx for clairifying  : )

Answer 7

Question does your daughter's sister know she is adopted? I'm not saying this to be mean. This comes from experince. I also have a sister that was placed for adoption and when we lived in the same town, we always saw each other. I grew up knowing she was my sister, but her adoptive parents 1) never told her she was adopted and 2) that i was her best friend not her sister. So, I would buy her gifts that had to do with sisters, so you guess that her mom ended up taking them away. Anywho--If the girl does know she is adopted then i would buy a gift that has to do with sisters. I really wouldn't do something for adoption. Because adoption is just an act it should not define your daughter and her sister. I mean they should have something that should recongize their relationship as sisters.