Siblings getting old??

Question

how do you explain to a 20 year old son and a 12 year old daughter that they can't get too close physically?

they are really close to each other, but my daughter sometimes really clings to my son?

i dont want any bad rumours but i dont want to hurt their feelings just to tell them to back off from each other.

help??

Answer 1

Talk to both of them. Cause if the son just cuts her off she will be hurt a lot

Answer 2

It's her older brother and she looks up to him! I do that to my cousins and I really don't see what is wrong. ANd if your family is happy than who cares what people think. I don't give a darn of their opinion!

Answer 3

You need to talk to your son, because he is oldest and should be able to understand why you feel what you do.

Answer 4

there brother and sister... rumors arent gonna start. it just shows that they're really close... you should be happy that they have that much of a good relationship

Answer 5

Love among siblings is fine, and who cares what people say?  The only people who matter are close enough to you to understand that it's just sibling love and not anything messed up!  Most anyone else won't even care.

Plus, keep in mind that the girl may get more private herself especially as she hits adolescence - that tends to make a girl more aware and sensative of her womanhood.

If still feel you need to bring it up, bring it up to the girl that with her approaching adolescence and development that she may need to change in ways appropriate for her age.  Discuss with her how to treat males in general.  Make it all part of the adolescent discussion and leave out the family.  If she feels that the discussion applies to her brother or father then let her think of that.

The older brother may be hurt and uncomefortable if you say anything, so I wouldn't say a thing - it might hurt how he treats her and make him more sensative about her growing - and that's the last thing the girl needs during this difficult changing time of life.  Leave the brother out of it, especially with it being just genuine sibling love.  I bet he feels like the best brother in the world when she gives him those hugs!

Answer 6

I wouldn't say anything! If something does happen then you can say something. But only you are in this situation and only you can decide what's right!

Answer 7

I wouldn't worry about it. You don't want your daughter to associate showing affection to her brother with "being bad."

Sitting on his lap or holding hands is perfectly fine! I'd rather them do that, than fight and argue all the time!

As long as they aren't doing anything inappropriate or sleeping together, I wouldn't worry about strangers' opinions or rumors.

If they're making out, together naked, or touching each other.. then I'd start to worry.. If anything like that happens, I'd have a long talk with both of them, especially your son.

Answer 8

How do you mean? If she just hugs him then that is perfectly fine. Besides, I doubt people are going to assume that something is going on between them besides just being close siblings.....

They're siblings and they're just showing that they have a good relationship.

Your daughter will probably stop within the next couple years of her own choice.

If people think those types of things then that is their own problem.

There is a difference between what is true and what isn't. As long as it isn't true and the people that matter know that they're just close siblings then there is nothing wrong with it.

Answer 9

Sounds like they are loving siblings.  your daughter will grow out of it.  If you have a problem you should probably tell them.