Sick, depressed, suicidal after losing dad?

Question

My dad just died a month ago, and I've been really depressed, which brings on headaches, sore throats, wooziness and just weakness. Not all at once, but that's what I've been feeling for the past week. But it hasn't been just after he died, because this happened before when I was living with him, so I don't think it's triggered by that. Could it be something bigger that I have to have checked?

As for the suicidal thoughts, they aren't so much as 'suicidal' as 'wishing for someone to kill me', but they're the same.

I don't want to go to counseling because I don't see how someone can even really help me through this if they don't even know me or my dad, so don't suggest that...

But is this normal for someone to go through? I'm only 14 and I don't think it's very normal.

Answer 1

i'm so sorry you lost your dad :( its definitely normal to feel very depressed at this time, but if its getting so bad that you wish someone would kill you I think you should talk to a professional. and definitely talk it out with your other family members, it will help you all cope. again, i'm really sorry for you loss, I couldn't imagine losing my dad so young.

Answer 2

Talk about it, but keep striving forward, think what would he want you to do.

Me personally, would try to make the most out of life and always remember what I had gotten from him in those 14 years.

Sorry for your loss.

Answer 3

Just last year my grandpa died. He was only 54. And i'm also 14. it is very normal. I went through the same thing you did. I have to take anti-depressents now. your not alone.

Answer 4

A good counsellor doesn't need to know your dad...they need to know you and you can tell them about your dad.  It's only been a month and you are only 14 which is why it is so hard.  The headaches, sore throats, woozieness and weakness are probably somatic and are related to your loss.  First have a physical check just to make sure that there is nothing wrong there and then seriously think about talking to a counsellor as they can help you through it.  Not to forget your dad or come up feeling fantastic, afterall you have lost your dad, but to help you work through the obvious grief you are feeling.  If you become stuck in your grief it may lead to problems further down the track.  14 is very young to lose your dad and I'm sorry for your loss.

Please help yourself by talking to a counsellor.  It is within normal especially after such a short time, but if you don't work through it, this could be your state of normal for longer than it needs to be.  All the best

Answer 5

Your probably just extremely sad because he just died recently. Just talking to someone will help. 14 is very young to loose a dad. If you feel suicidal and depressed, talk to anybody. Your friends, family etc. They will help you get through it.