Sick of getting thumbs down for being a young mother?

Question

I am and I'll bet a lot of you are. I don't even understand why it happens. People out there who are giving us thumbs down - Why are you doing it?

Answer 1

Honestly I think that there are some people out there who think it is funny to go around and give thumbs down to all the answers on random questions because they are immature. I mean, yes I have given out a thumbs down or two but that is only to someone who has been a complete jackass or given a ridiculous answer to a serious question. No to mention there wasn't anything about that question or your answer that warranted a TD. It was a simple question and you gave a factual answer. No one knows how old the asker is or why they are asking that question. Not to mention if you look up the profile of who is asking that question, as I usually do with questions like this. She has never asked any other pregnancy related questions and has never answered any either. For all we know she could have been doing a school project and was trying to gather some research.  

Answer 2

allot of people give thumbs down to make your answer look bad and because there mean i usually give thumbs up very rarely give a thumbs down and i had my first when i just turned 17 watch the thumbs down come for me lol i had 3 kids by 22 and hey im an ok mum a great provider as well  

Answer 3

I read a few of your answers. Maybe it is because you aren't married or maybe its because your writing sounds young.

Answer 4

I have seen many people get thumbs down for answers that are great. I think some people just go around giving thumbs down. Nothing to do with the answer, answerer or their age.

I wouldn't worry about it. These are just some people who haven't got anything better to do than to put others down. You know you are a good mum, age has nothing to do with that. I know older mothers who don't do such a great job at being parents. Age does not equal good parenting. I had my twins at 24 and never considered myself a young mum and never cared if others did. i had my babies that I had wanted since I was 8 and was so happy that others opinions on my age never even entered my head. So ignore the thumbs down, it is just their opinion and really do they matter. The only opinion that matters is your own (and your friends to a certain extent) and that you do your best job at parenting. Not that of people who you don't know and may be the worst parents ever or not even parents at all...the thing is you don't know them so ignore them

Answer 5

Hii I m 20 and 7 weeks pregnant I m getting married  in December.. I don't see my self as young.. If your over 18 I think your pretty much an adult and shouldn't be blamed for other teen or young pregnancys

Answer 6

Don't worry about it. I was 16 when I had my son. He is now 8 and is fine. I just finished my RN and make more than anyone in my inner circle who don't have kids. They are all worried about their boyfriends and coach bags, while I sit and build for me and my son. No, I am not married and my son's father is not around. I haven't seen him since I was 3 months pregnant, but that's not my fault.

So chin up!

Answer 7

Hun, don't take it personally, it is probably the trolls.....they are everywhere around here.

Answer 8

hello, i dont know why young moms get thumbs down either, but for my feelings on young moms. the ones i know anyway are not with a guy who can take care of them, or they are working at mcdonalds (any job is great, dont get me wrong) but you know children are expensive. and i guess you are so young you deserve to enjoy your "young" years. once you are in your 30's it is official you are an "adult" and you are older forever now. you get one chance at being young, and full of energy. that doesnt mean a love of a child is bad at a young age, but instead of changing diapers and caring for them 24/7. you should be in college, finding mr right, saving money and living it up. then when you are ready and had your fun and have a career, you can offer the whole family more. (not always true) but in a normal world and you do it right it can happen. however IF you have a child young, taking care of them and loving them and having them not in the system (like my foster kids, bio mom had 8 and lost them all) you deserve a big thumbs up. i wish you luck  

Answer 9

It looks like someone (or a couple of someones) just went through and thumbs downed every ones answers.  Some people on this site have the maturity of 2 year olds--if it's not their opinion, they don't like it.  It's a pity that these sorts of folks won't just log off of their computers and leave the rest of us alone.  

**I'm eventually going to be an old mom--I'm 26, and we're TTC #1.**

Answer 10

don't see why. 20 is not really that young. considering most girls have babies starting at 10 or 11 nowadays

Answer 11

I agree..i surprisingly havent had alot of nasty comments so far..i am 15 and 35 weeks pregnant and i dont think 20 is bad at all...15 is very young to have a baby but id much rather keep her than murder her!! i wouldnt have made another decisioin if i was given the choice! i cant wait til i get to hold her for the first time..people have to realise that critisicing young mums isnt going to get them anywhere and whats the point when the damage is done!!! thats my opinion anyway..

Answer 12

I answer alot of questions in the pregnancy and parenting section and it is where I get the most thumbs down. I never really thought about why becuase I do have good answers and a level head on my shoulders. I had my first when I was 19 and my second when I was 21 so I am a young mother but I really thought it was just a matter of opinion when it came to the number of thumbs down or thumbs up...either way. The P&P section is one of the most controversials sections so I switched to polls and surveys.

Not a big deal to me because I know what I know and even though it may work for me; it may not be what floats another's boat. I have come to realise that everyone is different especially when it comes to raising their children.

---> I would have to say its a little insulting--the stereotype-- of young mothers being simply a statistic or "a child raising a child". I think thats mainly where the thumbs down come from. Other users who think we are young and inexperienced. I have dealt with it since my first was concieved at 18 years old, so it is not hard to put in the back of my head and show that I can do what any older mother would be able to do and just as good. All is takes is patience, love, and dedication.

Remember to smile.

Answer 13

I don't think it's very right. I mean there's nothing we can do about her already being pregnant and it's just a simple question. It's not like she is condoning teenage pregnancy or saying she is 14 and wants to get pregnant.

Answer 14

dont let it get to you.... i'm only 19 with my first on the way - its you're choice if you have a kid or not . Not anyone elses.

plus, look on the bright side :) you've got a kid you love to bits and wouldnt change anything for the world.

so F every else. :) x*x

Answer 15

I don't think you are a young mother. What people forget is that way back when girls would give birth when they were 15, 16 and so on.  Todays world thinks that you need to wait to have s*x before you are married and be married to have a child. SOME people think young mothers can't care for a child the way they should be. I am talking like a 14 year old here. I think that if you can love a child and provide for a child it should not matter how old you are or who your with. It is none of there business until you hurt a child.    

Answer 16

Um wake up dear, your not a young mother...16 is a young mother.

Maybe your getting thumbs down for other reasons eh?

Answer 17

People also give thumbs down to women who don't breastfeed, women who bottlefeed, women who work, women who stay home with their children,  women who sleep with their children, women who start their babies on cereal too young, women who spank, women who don't spank, etc. etc. etc.

I actually got a thumbs down for a question asking how old was your baby when he or she started walking!!!!  How can you possibly thumbs down THAT?

So...suck it up.  If you don't want thumbs down stop answering questions.

Answer 18

Hey- don't let it get to you, I don't think that is too young,

I was the same age when I had my first child and I think I was about 23 when I had my 2nd.

Just look at it this way, now you have a lot more energy to play with your little ones and will be around a lot longer for them when they grow up and have their own little ones.

Cheer Up

Answer 19

It's because people are so anxious to find fault with everyone else so they can feel better about themselves.

Don't sweat it.  Just be the best mom you can be and rise above any mistake you have made in the past.  That's all ANYONE can do...even the perfect people!

Answer 20

I was about your age too, 20 when I became pregnant, 21 when I had my daughter, and now I'm 22 expecting again.

I just thought I'd give a heads up that there are a lot of trolls on here. Many of them come up with the most ridiculous stories, or they can't get over one story they've had for months, and others are just here to give the thumbs down. This is why in many many many questions, you'll see multiple, if not ALL answerers with thumbs down, no matter what the answer. It's not against you as a mother, no matter your age, it's just kids being bored on their summer vacation with nothing better to do.

Answer 21

People are just sadists. They have no lives, and they want to make their selves feel important.

For the record, I am only in my mid 20's & I have 4 biological sons & an awesome adopted son & a terrific Husband. Those 6 males have the only opinions I want to hear about my parenting - They all think the world of their Mummy & Wife.