Sick single mommy to a 3 week old, how do i not lose it? ?

Question

my son is almost 3 weeks and still weighs 8ozs less than at birth, so i have to feed him A LOT. there is nobody else to take care of him. i have the worst toothache ever motrin isnt helping at all . i keep getting overheated for no reason and i feel like im gonna throw up. i just want to sleep it away but i cant because my baby either needs to be held or be feeding most of the time.

i broke down and have already cried and cried, but what can i do to help myself in this situation? like i said nobody can come help.

Answer 1

You may have an abseth tooth and the overheating may be fever breaking go to the dentist about the tooth ache and if your conserned about his weight call and ask his pediatrician that's what their there for.

Answer 2

Ring your doctor NOW and get help.

Nobody? Do you have neighbours? Are any of them female and have / have had kids? If so, unless you are actively at war, now is the time that you bang on the door and say "please help me."

But you MUST tell someone. That's a dangerous amount of weight for your baby to be below birthweight at this age. Either you are not feeding him correctly or he has a problem which is preventing him from digesting the milk.

There's help out there. Please, please, ask for it.

Answer 3

Get your tooth looked at asap!

baby also needs to be checked out.

Answer 4

Congratulations on the birth of your baby. I think for your sake and baby's you need to go and speak to your doctor and health visitor. Go to your doctor because they will be able to give you something for your pain and discomfort and the health visitor will be able to help you with baby and the feeding. Also if baby has lost this much weight then he has to be checked to make sure he is ok.  I'm sure you will feel fine once you feel better within yourself. I know what it's like to have no one round to help you but there is hep out there for you xx

Answer 5

I have 4 children and am the 1st to tell you being a mom is HARD. Being a single mom is harder - you do need to get the both of you to a Dr. After making sure you are both ok - you will need to dig deep inside and find the strength to be the best mom you can to that little baby! It will be the hardest and sometimes most lonely thing you have ever done. I recommend you see if there are any support groups maybe at a local church or community center.

Good Luck  

Answer 6

Stop asking Yahoo! answers and go to an emergency clinic/emergency room.

Answer 7

go to the dentist and get that tooth taken care of before it causes you more problems. tooth aces have even killed people before

Answer 8

I'd take your son to the hospital if you can't get to the doctor this weekend.  That's a lot of weight for someone so small to lose.  Then after that is taken care of you should go see a dentist.  Can't your parents watch him for a little while?  

P.S. Glad to see you're alive and kicking.  I was wondering what happened to you.  Congrats on your son.

Answer 9

You both need to get to the doctor..... NOW!

Answer 10

my baby was eating alot and not gaining any weight when i brought her home. at 5days the doctor saw her and put her on enfamili enfacare formula. made for babys with a low birth weight. and she gained 5 ozs in 2 days. and now gains an oz a day. that formula works wonders. talk to a doctor and see what they recommend.

Answer 11

I think he does need to go to the doctor. Does he eat enough? Do you feed him every time he asks/cries for food? Babies do lose weight initially after birth. All of them, but is he still losing weight or not gaining any?

Meanwhile, sleep whenever he sleeps. Don't worry about the house work or anything. If you can manage to look after him properly and get your needed rest, everything else can wait.

You really don't even have a neighbor you can ask to watch him a few hours? What about your local community center? If there is no one, you're really in a bad situation. When you feel better, join a mommy and me group. You'll see you'll make friends and you'll have people to fall back on in the future. It's just plain impossible to raise a baby 100% by yourself.

Lots of good luck and keep in mind that everything comes in phases. No matter how hard things seem, they do pass.

Answer 12

I had massive problems with getting my 3 month old son to sleep.  He would just lie awake and cry for hours, then when he finally went to sleep he would wake every hour or two hours through the night and cry again!  Talk about pulling our hair out .... we were absolutely desperate for sleep!

It was a baby sleep audio program recommended by a friend that finally saved us. We followed the advice and began by creating a baby sleep routine which included bathtime, dimming of the lights, putting Paul into his crib, final nappy change and then lullabies. We also made recommended changes to his naps during the day and used some of the other recommended techniques. Within two weeks he was sleeping through the night most nights with just the odd night where he would just wake once!

Definitely start by creating a good baby sleep routine though and you could find that solves most of your baby sleep problems.

Good luck!

If you want to take a look, the audio program is at http://www.babysleepsolution.com

Answer 13

He'll come out of it and you will be able to begin to regain your sanity.

Answer 14

Is there absolutely no way Daddy or your parents can look after him while you go get dental treatment?