Silly question, but if love is supposed to be so wonderful, why does it hurt so much when a relationship ends?

Question

As God gave us the feeling of love, so why did he make it so painful when a relationship ends? I am just curious and wonder what others think. Thank you in advance.

Answer 1

I think it hurts because u have shared ur life with that person. told them ur secrets did things 2gether that felt so special and when u break up that part of u is gone. u become depressed bc that 1 person that u trusted and love has left and u no longer have that person anymore.

Answer 2

I guess to keep us in the relationship!  That way familial bonds are kept.  Without such bonds we would all be single parents and all the children would suffer!  Nobody wants to be the child of divorce, just like nobody wants to be in daycare.

Answer 3

Maybe love should not end.  Keep on loving, but in a different way

Answer 4

Love is a powerful emotion that a person feels with their whole body. The heart is the one that makes you feel this way.  When a relationship ends love become hurt. Hurt is what the heart feels, for love isn't there anymore.

Answer 5

isnt it always painful..to a certain degree when something wonderful ends..think about it...when a delicious meal ends...when great company leaves..when children leave...etc...but as i said the pain is in a different level and lasts longer/shorter as thecase may be. no pain however intense it may be lasts for ever and neither does any joy..thats life a cycle of change..of joy ,happiness ,pain,sorrow,...ectasy..and on it goes

Answer 6

Leave God out of it and the answers are simpler.

Love requires trust. When that trust is violated, as it usually is prior to a break up, people feel betrayed, wounded and often feel that they have been used. These are painful things. Pain at least is a teacher. This kind of pain teaches us who to avoid in the future.

You may need to raise your standards. As Louise said in Thelma and Louise, "You get what you settle for."

Answer 7

God made it that way so you don't take advantage of it.

Answer 8

It hurts mainly bcoz it hurts our ego

Answer 9

You feel hurt when you become physically or emotionally separated from something or someone you previously cared about. It's true of anything... and its sort of just the way it goes. We love, we lose, and we go on. But, it's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. The human heart is a strange, beautiful, and powerful organ...

Answer 10

love is just an excuse to feel pain.

Answer 11

it hurts because a good thing is ending

Answer 12

Let's leave god out of it for a minute.   Love is wonderful, so doesn't it make sense that it would hurt when something wonderful ends?

It's a risk/reward kind of thing.  If you never allow yourself to fall in love, you'll never be hurt.  But you also won't know how wonderful it is to be in love.  As Shakespeare said, " 'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."

Answer 13

well whenever a relationship ended i was hurt because i felt like i was unwanted like i did something bad like i was unloved and unliked which is always painful and u are ususally at ur weakest with the one u love because there is no need to put ur gaurd up with someone u trust so when they deny u ur at ur weakest which means u feel the most pain also i get sad because i kno nothing willever be the same and even tho time heals all wounds its still something that i can never have back and its upsetting just like when a loved one dies u miss them and u know things will never be the same it hurts to kno something like that

Answer 14

As I put more thought and energy into this subject, I feel like I understand it better to explain it to you.  Anything worth having in life has polar opposites.  The polar opposite of love, is hate, and in your relationship if it is "wonderful" the opposite is horrible, which directly translates to pain in our heart.  

God helps us learn and know that we must experience both sides of almost everything so we can decide which way we want to go.  If we only experienced pure, genuine love from everyone in our life, we would not appreciate it, and would take it for granted.  And once you experience that hate and pain, now you know that you must nourish and be so thankful to hold on to that love because you know it is so fragile, and may not last forever.

A great quote I read that I love --- "Sometimes good things fall apart so even better things can fall together!"

Thanks for reading!