Since I have Aspergers Syndrome, am I forever destined to be viewed as a "tool"?

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Quote from Urban Dictionary:

"4. Tool 1642 up, 416 down

A person, typically male, who says or does things that cause you to give them a 'what-are-you-even-doing-here' look. The 'what-are-you-even-doing-here' look is classified by a glare in the tool's direction and is usually accompanied by muttering of how big of a tool they are. The tool is usually someone who is unwelcome but no one has the [censored]--"courage" to tell them to get lost. The tool is alwasys making comments that are out-of-place, out-of-line or just plain stupid. The tool is always trying too hard to fit in, and because of this, never will. However, the tool is useful because you can use them for things; money, rides, ect.

"Let's drive to Chicago from Iowa. Oh man, we need money. Hey, let's ask tool to come, he'll spot us the cash!" "

Sounds like me. Is it? If not, will I still always look like one?

Answer 1

What is Aspergers Syndrome?

And if you think you fit the Urban dictionary definition of TOOL then change yourself.  Course correct.  You are whatever you want to be.  Hang out with different people who accept you for you.  I have heard this before but you become who you spend the most time with so spend time with good people and good luck becoming unTOOLED.

Answer 2

No im sure you wont always be veiwed as a "tool" and im sure ur not one now

Answer 3

You are not a tool and you should not look and think of yourself as a tool. the others are loosers and not worthy of your friendship. you will find people that will accept you and your character and what you stand for and until you do (and they are out there) then dont play into the hands of these loosers.

they do this because you let them, stand tall and start saying no. you will see that in the long run they will respect you for standing up for yourself and if they dont , they realy are not worth it.its nice to have friends and be popular but not at your expense.you need to start thinking that they are the ones with the problem.

Answer 4

No your not a tool to start with, and you wont always be veiwed as one, if your not one to start with anyway.  I have a couple of friends that have Autism or Asbergers (which is under the Autism spectrum) and i certainly wouldn't view them as tools.  Yes occasionally they can say things that are out of order or insensitive, but doesnt everyone? Also with your Asbergers, you will find it hard to fit in, because you know your differant- but being differant is a good thing- also Autistic peoples social skills are lacking as part of their Autism or Asbergers.  Althouogh i do suggest if you really feel that, your friends veiw you in this way, you dont really need them, you need people that like and support you whoever you are, and whatever your attutide is like. And yes it will be hard to walk away from a group of friends, and scary to try to make new ones, but maybe a change is just what you need to gain more self confidence, and to stop thinking of yourself in this way.

Sami =]

Answer 5

I have aspergers too.  I think your tool analogy fits very well actually.  

It doesn't mean you shouldn't say NO every now and then.  If your friends are using you like an ATM, then they aren't your friends.