Since having your children has your relationship with your parents changed????

Question

I have always been very very close to my parents but since having my daughter i have soooooo much more appreciation for them especially my mother, she had 3 children under 5 was a single mother, worked part time....i have 1 daughter, i am in a relationship , work part time and i struggle to keep my house clean....she amazes me soooo much.

Answer 1

Definately, i have so much more admiration, appreciation and respect for her and i also see her alot more now. She's always there for me and my babies.

Answer 2

1. I Have Not Had Children Left.2. It Did not change my mom and her moms relationship!

Answer 3

The only thing that has changed for me is that I am not the only child for my mom anymore. Now she worships her granddaughter :) Which I am glad for.

She says she wants to correct all the wrong things she did with me.

Answer 4

i find that my mom treats me more like an adult... and you're absolutely right! being a mom, myself, has given me a new appreciation for everything that my mom has gone through.

Answer 5

Yes it has and in a strange way its weird I'll tell you that

Answer 6

I too have a much greater appreciation for what a great job both my parents did raising me.

Answer 7

Has altered my view of parenthood immensely. I thought I had to be great at everything in order for my mother to love me let alone acknowledge my existence. I have 4 kids and each one just has to be themselves and there is no limit to my love for them. I look at my mother and think I dont know how I did it rather than the other way around.

Answer 8

Definitely. I have so much more respect for both of my parents. They are divorced and I had resented some of the decisions they made when I was much younger but now as a parent myself I understand where they were coming from.

Answer 9

Absolutely.  I remember when I was a teen getting into the usual fights with my parents.  I had no respect for them at all.  I had my first child at 30 and suddenly realised how hard it all was!  My parents had five children, so times what I was doing by FIVE!  I had my second child at 34, and all of a sudden the worries and responsibilities didn't just double (like I thought they would), but seemed to increase tenfold!  I now have nothing but respect and admiration for my parents - I way underestimated them when I was growing up. They did an amazing job.

Answer 10

Yes-- I had my 1st at 19 & my 3rs at 22. Mom had 5 in 10 years, including twins.

As per usual, I thought I knew EVERYTHING as a teen...and also as usual, found out pretty quickly how ignorant I was!

I lost Mom in late May, and I still get the urge to call her for advice...All you people who still HAVE your Mom, go hug her and tell her how much you love her!!!

Answer 11

Makes me hate my Biological Parents more than ever

Makes me love and respect my Foster Parents more than I could ever fully explain to anyone.

Makes me thankfully my Grandparents are still around, and it has strengthened our relationship.

Andrew's Parents, it bought us closer. They barely spoke to me until we started our family, and that was 5 years. Now I can barely get rid of them. hehe!

Answer 12

Since my daughter was born, there have been many moments where I've been enlightened..."Ooooh...so this is what Mom meant."

I have a very big appreciation now for my mom raising my brother and I...just 14-1/2 months apart. I simply cannot imagine having another baby so close in age to my daughter.

I wouldn't say our relationship has changed...but I would definitely agree that I *understand* now how challenging being a parent is. So, I guess that gives us one more thing in common.

Best of luck.

Answer 13

While I was pregnant (was living with mum cause I was 17) I found a new love for her.

I realise what she has been through and it's like we are more friends now than mother and daughter.

Since I moved out of home 6 months ago we have spoken EVERYDAY either on the phone or via email.

Mum was left as a single mother when I was 10 and my sister 6 I am now almost 20 and my sister almost 16.

I don't know how she did it.

I like you am in a relationship and have 1 child and can't do half the things in a day like my mum did.

I think having a child makes you more aware of what your parents have done and sacrifised for us over the years so that we could have the best upbringing as possible.

I love my mum and miss her so much since I moved out of home.

I often find myself ringing her just to hear her voice.

Then I get off the phone and cry cause I miss her and realise oneday it's going to me receiving the call from my child/ren just to hear my voice.

If I can be half the parent my mum is I will be proud of myself.