Since my divorce, I'm always waiting for boyfriends to leave?

Question

My husband left me for another woman. A stripper/dancer to be exact. It was a shock. The divorce was final 6 months ago. Now I am in my 2nd long term relationship. He is an absolute wonderful man who seems to adore me and tells me so. The problem is, I can't trust his love. I am so insecure in this and my last relationship. I'm waiting for them to leave and can't believe someone would love me for who I am. I keep waiting for good men to turn bad. Do other women who have been abandoned by their husbands have this problem? Have they conquered it? I don't want to lose this one. He is too good.

Answer 1

I highly recommend going to see a therapist. You need to cope with the whole divorce so you can let it go and move on with your life.

It's always hard to put your trust in someone when someone in your life has betrayed you - but you need to remember that this guy is not your husband.

Even if he does leave there is nothing you can do to control that.So why not just let it go and enjoy the here and now? I know it's easier said then done, but just try.

Answer 2

Hon, you've only been alone six months.... you'll be fine.  You aren't in a second long term relationship----news.  You've dated two guys in 6 months would be a better description.

Trust takes awhile to build... and you may not end up with this one either.