Since pregnant women are nice! please help- ?

Question

I will post my question here although i know its not exactly pregnancy related i really need an opinion ---

I was with my ex for 2 years.. we have been thro alot together including a misscarriage he is my first love... he kept cheating and i finally left--- Now 4 months later im with someone new that i care about very very much... BUT when we are together intimately i cant stop thinking about my ex.. although i dont think i want to be with him... I also call my new bf by my ex's name--- in my head only but im scared i really will slip up accidentally one day... i care about my bf sooo much, we have only been together 3 weeks but i want to see the potiental we have together... uhhh im frustrated and dont know what to think or do... any advice...?

Answer 1

basically you are not over your ex or all the things you went though ..You need time to heal and let him go ,do not miss take grief with wanting him back ,its not that .You will get over it but only if you talk it though and deal with it ..if you have a girl friend who is nice talk to her if not maybe a councillor ...I really think you will get over this in time ..But let me ask one question ...is your new BF like the old one in any way ? ..sometimes we just transfer our feelings to some one who reminds us of our ex and doing that may not be a great thing since your last BF was no prize...

Answer 2

I was with my ex boyfriend for two years. When I met my current boyfriend, we had only been broken up for a month. It took at least 6-7 months for me to move on. I wish I had waited and given myself time to get over my last relationship but fortunately my current boyfriend was understanding and helped me move on. You'll get over it and the thoughts will fade, give yourself time. Good luck.

Answer 3

well when i met my husband, i had recently broke up w/ an ex as well....at first i did the same you...think about the ex even though we had broken up ect...your ex will NOT make you happy..you have moved on to what seems a better relationship..after a few mos i got over the feelings for my ex and now i couldnt care less about him..its been 5yrs since my hubby and i are married , and we have two kids....if you like this new guy, stick w/ him...slowly you will forget about ex.

Answer 4

I'm not PG - but you're mistaken if you think PG ladies are nice, LOL! We're HORMONAL!! PG twice & both times I was quick to anger & spout off.

ANYWAY....you still love your ex, you haven't given yourself sufficient time to get over him before jumping into a relationship w/ guy #2. He may be nice but it's obviously not the right time for you 2.

Answer 5

You may care about your new bf but at the same time maybe hes just filling the void ya know..like a rebound? At least talk to your ex. Maybe you need some closure. My ex cheated on me too and i just completely stopped talking to him, it got me nowhere but thinking about him all the time. we finally talked and it really helped. Im finally over him and able to move on.

Answer 6

Beware of rebounding! You are not over #1 and going headlong into #2 (literally and possibly figuratively). IMHO you should give yourself time to get over #1 before plunging into another relationship. After just 3 weeks you say you are all involved with you current bf...that's not good....you may well be setting yourself up for a world of hurt.

Answer 7

its really hard if you were in a 2 year relationship with a guy and broke up with him.. you just need to not think about him at all even though it may be hard because of all the things you went through with him.. dont think about the past think about the future you sound like your still in love with him.. i know its hard but you will get through it and you will have a good life with your new boyfriend

Answer 8

It's understandable that you think about your ex since he was your first love even though he is a cheater.  Quit calling your new bf your ex's name in your head.  Don't keep the thought going. I know he might pop up in your head but don't add onto it. Don't worry about the people in the past there is a reason they didn't make it into your future. You have a different future now and don't ruin it by dwelling on the past.  Just brush it off when you think of him and think of the potential you have with your new guy. You wouldn't like it if your bf thought of his ex would you? So try to not do that to him.  Good luck.