Since u are a parent, do u go to your kids business? like do u go wondering their room, looking for their?

Question

personal stuff like their dairty, letters,computer and etc, if so what did u find? were they mad that u were looking at their stuff?

Answer 1

have not found any reason for doing so, yet.

Answer 2

Well, my kids are too young for that, but my dad used to do that to me when I was a teen. He went through the documents on my computer and saw that I was writing things about having s*x and drinking. I was sixteen/seventeen at the time.

I was really mad at him, but he was even  more mad at me.

Answer 3

i didnt snoop thru my kids stuff but he didnt give me any reason not to trust him   if he had of and i thought he was taking drugs or something then yes i probably would of gone thru his stuff  its my house and my business what goes on in it

Answer 4

Hi Santhia C..

    Yes I am very involved in my son's life, every aspect..    He's 6-yrs old and we have inspection a day during the week, we do it together.. It's embaressing to do but the kid has to trust you also..    He knows what i am looking for,  he also trusts me and tells me about what's going on at home, in school, he friends..etc.    We clean his room at the same time..:-))

      He knows right from wrong but he's human and makes mistakes, can't hold that against him..    He knows I know who he hangs out with, plays with and knows..    But I would never-ever read his diary, it's his bible..     He does read to me from it every now and again, he's a kid and has questions about life as anyone would..    He's very mature for his age..

He doesn't get mad at me,  he knows the Q/A is followed by a thurough inspection and follows protocal..

      It takes me 10-minutes..    It's not rocket science, respect them and their privacy and they'll give you what you want in return, it's not hard..   Just a few days ago he broke a really treasured picture of mine, he came right to me, told me what happened and appologized..   I don't make it a prison-camp..

He knows I am looking out for him, I know he respects me and my rules..  I don't have a hard time with him at all..

Hope this helps..Good Luck!!!

Listen to them, learn from them, encourage Q/A..:-))))))))))

Answer 5

sometimes I will find something while I try to straighten out the mess, my daughter used to get real mad though she never had anything very incriminating, and my son doesn't seem to mind. He kind of expects it. He too is a good kid. Your parents know much more about you than you think with or w/o snooping.

Answer 6

My parents didn't because I password protected my laptop. But my mom's friends admitted to me that they knew their kids myspace passwords, email passwords, etc. If I had found out that my parents were doing that I would not have spoken to them for months and I probably would have done something bad in retaliation like hide something they liked. I just think it is a betrayal of trust. You come home to escape pressure, you shouldn't have to worry about protecting yourself from your parents. However, if parents suspect that their children are doing something illegal or dangerous then that is a completely different situation and I completely understand why they snoop.

Answer 7

not yet, but if they give me any kind of reason at all to, I will without thinking twice about it.

Answer 8

Well, I have a 16 year old, and I try to give her as much privacy as possible. But I do however insist on keeping up with her computer and phone passwords. You never know when a kid will get in with the wrong crowd, or heaven forbid go missing. Just the other day my daughter was out with friends and did not answer her phone right away. So I signed on to her myspace to see if any of the friends she was supposed to be with were online. I told her about it when she got home, and she is fine with it. But I DO NOT just go around reading her personal e-mails and text messages. I probably won't unless I see any suspicious behavior or get the feeling she has something to hide.

Answer 9

My parents went through my things periodicly when I was a kid.  It was annoying and I thought it was an invasion of my privacy.  I have kids now and I have gone snooping before I will admit.  But I did it because my daughter had been acting strange and all of the sudden wouldn't open up to me anymore so I was worried.  I did find some incriminating items.  When I approached her about it as you can imagine, all h**l broke loose.  But I would do it again in a heartbeat.  When you are a kid and live at home, your parents are the boss period.  And about the computer, I don't feel that a child should have total privacy on a computer, especially with an internet connection.  My daughter is 16 and I will read her chat logs and such.  Not read it to snoop and find out everything she says to her friends, but I look for screen names I don't recognize as her friends.There are so many bad bad people online and if we arent looking out for them, who will?  As long as I buy the computer and pay the internet bill I will have every password in my home.  She knows it and after long discussions about why, she is cool with it. Just keep this in mind:  As you get older your parents feel that they are no longer the one you come running to with  your problems, you dont confide in them as you did when you were younger.  That is scary for a parent!  When we snoop, we are just looking for answers to questions you wont answer.  It is not really all that bad and when you are older and have kids, you will understand. (I know that gets so old to hear)

Answer 10

My daughter never gave me a reason not to trust her. But if she had ever been dishonest with me, new rules would apply. As long as she was a minor living under my roof, it was my responsibility to protect her. I would do anything ethical to achieve that.

Answer 11

In our house, it has been made clear beyond a doubt that our parents will never snoop, and we will never snoop through each others things.

They will never read our diaries; if we leave our diaries open on the living room floor, they will close them and put them on our side of the stairs, without reading them.

The most they will ever do is check the handwriting. If my mom needs something out of my room or my bag, she'll ask permission before going in to get it, and even then she doesn't like to.

It's all about trust. I trust my parents completely and without reservation. I wouldn't hesitate to tell them anything. They also trust me completely, and I work very hard to maintain that trust. It's amazing how nice it is to have that kind of trust, and I don't ever want to know what our relationship would be like without it.

I know without a doubt that the trust between us is complete and absolute, and I never have to wonder about it, or worry about them betraying that trust, and they can know the same about me.

Trust and respect are the basis of our relationship, and without it we would never be so close.

I told an acquaintance about this, and she didn't believe it. Unfortunately, the trust my parents and I have is not common, and that is just so sad to me. What must it be like to not trust someone so close to you?